A comment about revealed preferences for people we hang out with:
Last year, there was 69 plans that were voted in. Of those, here is the list of people that we specifically voted to spend time with in plan:
Jiraiya:
IIIIIII
Keiko:
IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
Noburi:
IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
Ikeda:
I*
II
Ami:
IIIII
Mist's Oyabun:
I
Shin:
III
Hana:
II
Stabby Zabby:
I**
Nakano:
IIII
Mari:
IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
Kagome:
IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
Akane:
IIIIIIIIIIIIII
Tsunade:
IIII
Ino:
IIIIIIII
Shikamaru:
IIIIII
Naruto:
III***
IIIIIIIIII
Chouza:
IIIIII
Asuma:
IIIIIIII
Shino:
IIIIII
Minami:
IIII
Lee:
II
Minori:
II
Snake:
III
Amori:
II
Kabuto:
III
Atomu/Reo:
I
Yuno:
III
Orochimaru:
II
Hinata:
IIII
Kiba:
II
Hagoromo:
III
Choji:
II
Kyosho:
I
Haru:
I
Aya:
I
Noda:
I
The party invites we've sent:
Ino:
III****
I
Shikamaru:
III****
I
Choji:
III****
I
Hinata:
II****
I
Shino:
II****
I
Kiba:
II****
I
Lee:
I****
I
Tenten:
I****
I
Neji:
I****
I
Naruto:
II
KEI:
II
A whole lot of foreigners:
I
Count of nonsocializing plans, due to extenuating factors: 10
Count of we trust you eaglejarl: 2
*Technically a party invite, but the point of the plan was to talk to Ikeda.
**Less socialization, more "it's social combat time"
***Technically it was "we trust you EJ", but the intent IIRC was to talk to Naruto.
****We didn't plan it but I assume they were invited.
The friend we most voted to spend time with was Ino*****, clocking in at around 10 to 12 times out of 58-69, depending on how you count.
Most of those votes, in addition, was simply because we didn't get to it in a previous plan.
On average, though, we chose to vote to spend our time with friends like...10% of the time, at the most generous.
If we keep it up, that's a great way to lose them as friends.
*****Naruto is a special case because our relations with each other kept bouncing all over the place until it's where it is now: "you're either a traitor or a fucking moron, Hazou".