Emstar
The Shining One
- Location
- Trapped in an extradimensional rift.
- Pronouns
- She/They
Allow me to spitball.Epistemic status: Pondering.
I feel... that it may be the case that the hivemind's dissolute parts plays strongly against this kind of characterization-changing thing. It's not a sure thing, but I believe part of the issue may be that we have these kinds of epiphanies often, but they get lost in the shuffle of different planmakers making every plan, and reminders -- and memories -- are fallible.
I believe we've tried planmaking guidelines before and they didn't especially work. Does anyone have other suggestions?
The issue is that we are a pile of different humans with different personalities.
Some people like to be crystal-fucking-clear to prevent Hazoubot from interpreting things incorrectly. Some like to just skirt details entirely.
Interactions with individuals are a bit more nuanced than that.
For example, I prefer:
- "Hey Nobby, want to grab some ice cream?"
- Bullshit with him about nothing in particular.
- Make sure to very intentionally avoid discussing personal topics of which he is quite sore about.
- Namely his crippling self-esteem issues and frayed relationship with his little sisters.
- Do juxtapose his successes and others' failures (including your own) in a way that makes him feel better.
- "At least neither of us had to strip in front of the audience (Hinata,Kiba). Shit dude."
- "Do you think we need to add 'Hazou Flambe' to the clan dinner menu?"
- Make it very clear (but do not say this explicitly out loud) that you have his back in all things.
- Gee, we can't wait to get back to Leaf to get started on all these cool projects.
- Any ideas for that mednin training system you proposed to Tsunade? What about start up costs?
- We have some ideas to make money, so we could totally help with that if you wanted. Say the word man.
- Is supportive.
- Makes Noburi aware that we know something is up with him.
- And it's cool if he doesn't want to talk about it.
- Agency respecting elements present.
- Sounds like a normal social interaction between two individuals.
Some people would prefer to accomplish the above with a bunch of insightful and well thought out ways to steer the conversation to the topic of Noburi/his sisters, and try to be very careful to do so gingerly and in a supportive manner.
That's fine too in a sense but it does nothing to combat the overarching problem of "Hazou just blunders through a conversation like a robot, and cannot hold his own."
What I would like to improve on:
- More explicit usage of body language in non-critical social situations.
- Stop being so damn naive.
- Less flowchart reading, zero CCnJ for people who aren't Keiko and then only sparingly.
- For Keiko: We should probably start branching out into flowcharts and diagrams to assist us in communicating.
- More casual conversational tone.
- Read Jiraiya's books.
- All of them. Smut included. Read Ino's favorite books too. Hell, read all of the books, goddamnit.
- Interact with more humans outside of the clan, and on a regular basis.
- Seriously.
- Go do some sort of timed debate-style activity with {Insert Person Here} where you practice thinking through complicated things on the spot.
- General annoying habitual things I see from time to time.
- Do not change your mind on something when a decent sounding argument against your opinion is immediately thrust in your face. Do not vehemently argue against it, either. Consider the new information or viewpoint thoughtfully.
- If you must appear to change your mind for reasons unspecified, do so externally but keep your internal opinion consistent with your actual beliefs.
- Examine everything more critically. What do you know, and why do you think you know it? Why is someone telling you X, and just how true is X, really?
- Event Y has happened, who gains from this? By what avenues could it have been brought about? Could person X have done this? Do they stand to gain from it?
- Do not change your mind on something when a decent sounding argument against your opinion is immediately thrust in your face. Do not vehemently argue against it, either. Consider the new information or viewpoint thoughtfully.
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