Emstar
The Shining One
- Location
- Trapped in an extradimensional rift.
- Pronouns
- She/They
While i concur with your sentiment, i would like to note that this was not a "personal experience".
This was an uplift operation again a Jounin/Possible S-Ranker.
It was not a "personal experience" that Hazou tried to find individuality, it was a "All hands on deck operation" that Hazou implemented on his own and could have been damaging for everyone.
Framing it as a "Well, Hazou need his agency" is at best only technically correct, especially when the other part of the operation is Keiko sister, someone that could have used the situation as a stress point to damage the team...something that actually happened.
At least asking for Rule Of Engagement to Keiko was, while not necessary, something polite to do.
And let's be real:
From an internal perspective,We know why Hazou hid the meeting, and sure as hell was not "Let's take a personal day to follow my heart".
If Noburi decided to fight Zabusa 1vs1 and decided to tell us nothing because he know better, everyone would have kicked his ass all the way to Konoha and back, just because we did it socially doesn't change the situation.
I mean, we explicitly cleared it with the J man beforehand, so it doesn't quite map onto that scenario.