How is giving someone cleansing not helping their emotional issues?
I'm not claiming that giving her cleansing isn't us helping. I'm claiming its us helping by completely removing the biggest limits she has which reduce her own ability to help.
Tatsuya doesn't have any magic that giving him cleansing reduces the limits of. Besides, if we created a device whose sole ability was improving Sayaka's, and only Sayaka's, ability to help, giving it to her would still be a handout. In order to not give her handouts, we'd have to decide to refuse to help her at all, which is dangerously irresponsible and cruel.
Clear Seeds are something we want to stop using ASAP, so why are we treating them as a valid point?
Besides, if I give someone tools, they're still the ones doing the labour.
Really, what I'm saying is how is my suggestion patronising while there is another hypothetical method of helping her that isn't? And why is patronising Sayaka more bad than allowing her to get herself killed or refusing to help the rest of the magical world?
I have self-worth issues. I don't like it when people are patronising either. Do you know what I'd find even more patronising and generally disgusting? Someone deciding to deliberately avoid helping others out of fear of hurting my feelings? How is Sayaka not going to feel the same way and even if she doesn't, how is hurting her feelings, by proving something that removes the danger of her hurt feelings, worse than deliberately allowing her and the rest of the world to suffer and die?
We're already helping her quite a bit, and we've made sure that she knows that she can come to us for help with just about anything. Giving her more "free" help is likely to make her self-worth issues worse.
Remember, Sayaka contracted because she felt like she was totally reliant on the goodwill and effort of her friends, being a burden on them whilst being unable to contribute anything of worth in return.
She's fine with accepting training and advice, since that makes her a better magical girl, more competent, and less of a burden--it increases her self-worth and it's something that she has to work at. Likewise, setting her up for training with Kyouko is fine, because Kyouko is going to point out all the areas Sayaka needs work in, and challenge her to improve.
Giving her a Clear Seed is fine because we've already given Clear Seeds to others before, and we're planning on offering them out in larger numbers anyway. We also need people trying them out to serve as a trial run, so she--and everyone else we give them to, for now--are helping us out by using them.
I'm not sure where you got the impression that we want to stop using Clear Seeds. Haven't we already determined that, even amongst Clear Seeds, there are some that are docile and some that seem more malevolent? Just only circulate the malevolent ones. But even if that isn't the case, there's no moral difference between using a Grief Seed and using a Clear Seed. If anything, Clear Seeds are better because they are far, far easier to reuse/refresh (since you can use them MANY times, as opposed to just a handful of times). People we give them to are very unlikely to throw them away/give them to Kyubey, since they can just wait long enough until we stop by again and refresh it.
Besides, I'm not confident in our ability to create an enchanted object that allows us to reduce our powerset to an object any MG can use. If Sayaka can't even copy our power at all, then how likely is it that we can make an object that grants its user our power?
