I could vote for you if I thought there wasn't a large risk of Mami jumping out the damn window midway through your lead-in.
I don't think Mami's exactly in a shape to crawl up on a chair, much less do that.
And to my surprise, I'm actually serious about that
. She faltered when she tried the last time, and now she's using Sabrina as her personal hugpillow/punching bag(?) for her grievances. But as for the actual issues:
Yeah my earlier criticism of your vote was crap. Here's what I really don't like about it:
[] "Because I was scared."
[] Keep talking with Mami, maintain as steady a tone as we can. But if we are about to start crying, then don't try to hold it back too much, just enough so we can keep on talking.
[] Cleanse yourself, no grief spiraling here.
[] Apologize to Mami for not telling about this earlier. We never wanted to hurt her, yet we somehow end up doing it without even meaning to.
Too slow, too weak. "I did it because I was scared"? "I'm sorry"? "I didn't mean to hurt you but I did"? You're starting with that? No. That's playing into her expectations.
Slow and weak? I might grant you the weak, because that kind of thing is rather subjective in the end, but slow is not exactly the word I feel is descriptive here. 4 simple words to start with is not slow. Us being afraid of Mami is something there's no indication of. But saying, "because I was scared" gets straight to the point, and does it quick while also being
honest.
This whole mess started by us essentially lying to Mami, so whatever we do it needs to be sincere. Telling that we were afraid answers her questions, that essentially boil down: 'why didn't you tell me'. And it's why we didn't tell her, it's not exactly difficult to see the uncertainty about telling her in the thread.
Furthermore, us having been afraid of Mami('s reaction) is not something she could have reasonably expected. It doesn't play to her expectations but quite the opposite: chances are that she is going to grab onto it as a safety rope. Again, I'll refer to the way she's clinging to us. Despite us being the source of her hurt, she's still clinging to us for... well, comfort might not be a good word, but it will have to do. She doesn't know what to do, not yet, and giving her a simple but honest reason immediately provides an avenue for her thoughts to escape to. Saying we were scared leaves it at that, and thus gives us the chance to expand upon it.
Now, as for the next to []'s, about the tone and cleansing, those are for during the talk. Those can be easily moved or reworded if it feels like they waste time or make things slow, no problems there.
On the other hand, on some level I can see how us being scared could be taken the wrong way too. One possible idea might be to remove the start and cut straight to the following parts?
Namely, this:
[] Apologize to Mami for not telling about this earlier. We never wanted to hurt her, yet we somehow end up doing it without even meaning to.
It's there to establish that we're genuinely
sorry about everything that we know that we fucked up. Furthermore, it serves to establish the rest of the lines with the important, actual substance. Well, that, and it's probably for the better if we show genuine regret at our actions, before starting to sing praises of Mami and explaining things to her. We did hurt her here, we just admitted to keeping things from her. Not apologizing and acknowledging what we did, and cutting straight to excuses would be callous.
However, I am open to improvements, so please do share if you have an idea of how to start things off better. The way out of this mess is to constantly polish and improve upon our plan of actions.
