To be fair, we had no way of knowing that talking to her actually had a good chance of succeeding, let alone not blowing up in our face.
Uh... yeah, we kind of knew. A lot of us knew we had a good chance, or at least a decent one.
And the worst part of this.
You say that she is acting hysterical.
But she was completely right to act that way. There was no way that doing this was going to be anything but a direct slap in the face to her. An insult and a mockery of everything that she stands to be.
There's actually a really,
really big gap between saying "her acting this way was predictable because she would predictably feel insulted" and "she was right to act in the way we predicted."
I mean, Lord Vegeta, pre-Sealing, would predictably react to any 'backtalk' from his son by hitting the boy with a Big Bang Attack or something. He regarded such backtalk as "a direct slap in the face" and "an insult." That doesn't mean doing so was right by
any stretch of the imagination.
There was no reason to go to Lord Vegeta. or whatever his Sealed name is. His sealed form has no power, no authority, and no right to act in the politics of the Exiles and the Saiyans, because he is no longer one of them, and no longer has the information that he needs to be able to handle the situation in a knowledgable and intelligent manner.
Uh... then why does
she have power, authority, or a right to act in the politics of the Exiles and the Saiyans? I mean, if Valentine Somerlad doesn't have a say (indirectly) in saiyan politics, where does Regent Dandeer's say in those politics come from? Her claim to political power comes entirely from the notion that she's been (indirectly) consulting her husband.
Alternatively, if Dandeer/Doreen's authority over Jaron comes from being his mother, then why doesn't Valentine have similar authority? Sealed or not, he's still part of a marriage, right? Does he not get a say in what happens to his own son? If so, that's a very unequal marriage.
[You could argue that Lord Vegeta has no right to any say in what happens to his kids, and you'd be right- but the
entire point of the Sealing was to metaphysically amputate the parts of "Lord Vegeta's" mind that made him such an abusive evil fuck. If Dandeer, with full opportunity to do so, didn't forcibly MAKE Lord Vegeta into a good father, then that is a major failure on HER part given how much incentive she had to try and how long she's had to do it.]
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Do you really think that she actually went to her husband for any of that? Because that is extremely stupid. I wouldn't go to my neighbor for advice about my work because my neighbor has no info and no context. That means he has no way of being able to choose correctly or incorrectly.
Aaaand now you know why the Vegetans were right on the edge of openly revolting against Dandeer's regency! Because from their point of view, if we acknowledge this
completely obvious truth, then Dandeer was basically a usurper who seized control of their government in a coup by mind-controlling the king and the prince.
The legal fiction that 'Lord Vegeta,' even when addressed in terms of metaphor and allusion, has authority over the Vegetans, is the only thing that kept their government from blowing up during a four-year regency.
Furthermore, if we're talking about who has the legal right to do what, that loops back to the point that while Valentine Somerlad doesn't know anything about saiyans, he DOES now know about ki and his son having ki powers, and the upcoming alien invasion. He has sufficient information to make a fairly well informed decision on whether his son can train to fight with ki.
We are talking about a woman who managed to defeat a Super Saiyan on her own.
Who with the help of a single super saiyan managed to fight off two Super Saiyans and win.
To be fair, the "defeat a super saiyan" part happened when the super saiyans in question were asleep and badly wounded (probably not even transformed), respectively. The latter may not have happened
at all since we have no idea if Dandeer told the truth about what passed between her and Jaffur on the night of Lord Vegeta's Sealing.
The one-on-two fight? Yeah, that was all Berra. Had Berra not intervened and had physical power that mismatched and ludicrously overmatched the Kakara-Jaffur teamup (as you'd expect a grown man to outmatch two eight year old children)... Dandeer would have lost that one
hopelessly. She'd have been stranded away from the action while the Senzus caught up with us and whisked Jaffur away into safety.
She battled against Jaffar. And she came out on top. Maybe you don't remember those rolls that happened when we fought him.
Uh... what?
this was a declaration of war. We declared war against Dandeer. And we seriously FUCKING SHOULD NOT HAVE.
As things are? We can't win. Maybe if we didn't have an alien invasion to deal with, a possible world war is on the horizon, we have an entire society to try and run, and a world spanning conspiracy to wade through.
Now I think you're being... reflexively super pessimistic, excessively so.
Now all of that is going to be a hundred times harder because there is someone who has the political weight to fuck everything we try over arranged against us.
And on top of that she is a master sorceress. She has powers and abilities that we cannot even comprehend on her side, ready to do whatever she can to fuck us over.
And so long as it is not traced back to her, everything and everyone except her son is fair game.
To be fair, Dandeer is on thin enough political ice that her effective power is very limited,
especially if it gets out that she reacted this way to us directly consulting "Lord Vegeta" on an issue where even Sealed he was in a position to understand the risks and issues involved now that the secret of ki is out.
There's risk of Dandeer breaking out heavy-duty magic against us, but by the same token if she starts launching magical attacks at us like that we DO have allies, and people who would intervene on our behalf. We do in fact have Seers watching our backs. And Berra, Yammar, and Apra all have their own separate reasons NOT to tolerate Dandeer tampering with the Scion of Goku, or Dandeer acting in ways that compromise the defenses of Garenhuld in the face of the alien threat.