I'm well aware. The fact remains that they're probably the biggest influence on the DB fan base outside of *maybe* the official work itself, and they aren't helping matters. I know some people who first became exposed to DBZ through DBZA picked it up from there, for instance.
Well, Episode 60 seems to be reducing the damage a bit from the perspective of the work as a whole, but I definitely understand and to some extent share your feelings on the matter.
It also exaggerates Goku's general cluelessness, with similar effects.
I'm not really talking about him not spending time with Gohan, more him not understanding Gohan. Or why people would want him around even though he was protecting them by not being there. Goku doesn't really understand people too well, and while it's mainly played for goofs, it's still part of his character.
Well, there comes a point at which it's unfair to say that "Goku is congenitally not very good at understanding people"* translates into "Goku is a bad father for not understanding his son."
Especially when his son's very biological imperatives are subtly different from his own because from his frame of reference,
he literally married a space alien and his son was raised by space aliens.
I'd say that Goku did about the best he could as a father given his weaknesses (understanding people who don't share his attitude toward life) and his strengths (strength). Even if he wasn't a
good father, he wasn't a
bad one. A mediocre father in general, perhaps, at least outside of his very indisputable willingness to sacrifice his life to keep his son safe for which one normally awards bonus points.
...
The thing is, just killing Frieza faster on Namek wouldn't have made him a
better father than he was.
Because insofar as Goku had failings as a father, by your own argument they were about how he related or didn't relate to his son emotionally, not on account of a deficiency in his beating up of bad guys.
[I mean shit, if your father is
Goku and your complaint is that he doesn't beat up bad guys vigorously enough, you're going to be hard to please.
]
[Yes that last line was basically mostly a joke
]
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*(hell, this may be a saiyan thing; can we think of a single full-blooded canon saiyan with GOOD social skills)