Okay, so, this is roughly an actual vote and represents something major coming out of my backlog because this is exactly the moment for it.
[X] Talk to Mami
-[X] She does realize that she just overcame essentially the exact type of situation that's caused her all of her misery, right? By herself!?
--[X] Excitedly jumping hugtackle!
---[X] You're here for her and she is *awesome*!
-[X] Calm down
--[X] Nobody really talks about it, but this sort of interpersonal stuff -- what to say, when, to whom, how, so that you end up with this instead of that -- it can be learned. It can be learned, it can be practiced, and eventually you can do a lot better than luck of the draw with it. The big problem is that because nobody talks about it, until you find out that it's a thing, heck, until you learn something about it and *use what you learned*, find out that you can *change*, realize that it really is a *skill* that can be *acquired*, you're stuck just... Thinking that screwing up something like this means there's something inherently wrong with you. That you're broken and can't be fixed.
---[X] That's just not true, though. Today, maybe she couldn't have done it on her own, maybe she wouldn't have found the courage -- but today, *she* found the right words, and no-one else. She can do it again tomorrow, and the day after, and the day after that, and every time that it *works* for her she'll find that she's just a little more comfortable with it, knows what to say just a little bit better. There are books about it -- of varying quality -- if one looks for them, and she can read them if she chooses to. And day by day, if she keeps at it, there will come a time when she will never again feel so helpless in this way.