Fucking hell, fine. Pointless micromanagement added.Would you have Sabrina start pouring her heart out and Mami only realizing she's doing it after she's halfway through the vote? This isn't something you 'don't micromanage', something you leave up to chance.
Just get any sort of confirmation that Mami's listening, just a nod will do.
Look to see she's reacting. If she's not, she's not listening right now, either prod her or shut up.
Look to see she's reacting. If she's not, she's not listening right now, either prod her or shut up.
X] Make sure that Mami is registering what you're saying before starting. Shouldn't need to be said, but there it is.
I disagree that this was manipulative. My definition of manipulation is that it is using your knowledge of someone to try to get them to act differently than they would if they had access to all the facts. If Mami had known all the facts from the start, would she still have wanted to be friends with Sabrina? I suppose it's impossible to be sure, but I'm pretty sure that the answer is "yes". At any rate, any manipulation towards friendship based on meta-knowledge was unintentional.The thing is, however you wrap it up, it's nigh on impossible to get around "I knew about you and made friends using said pre-existing knowledge about you" without it sounding manipulative. Because, well, it is.
I agree that Mami's reaction seems rather out of proportion to what it should have been. IMHO a big part of the problem is that Sabrina approached things by saying that it was awful, putting it off for days and letting Mami stew on the fact that it was going to be a "horrible revelation". And Sabrina was tense and nervous and that just confirmed to Mami that the news was bad news. If Sabrina had played things more casually and had simply told Mami that one of the things that was stuck into her head when she lost her memory was random information about people's lives "like memories of watching a movie", then that would put things into the proper perspective. It would also have reminded Mami that the price that Sabrina payed for the meta-knowledge was a complete lack of memories and friends. I don't know how much of this will register if we tell Mami now, but we might as well try:Hmm.
I... dun get it.
Her worst fear is that Sabrina knew her from a distance?
Why? Why would she have "nothing left", now?
Halp?
We intend to. But first we want to make sure that she's calm enough to actually process what we're saying. We don't want to pile a massive info dump onto her if she's still upset and uncertain of our feelings. We don't want her to start freaking out three sentences in like she did last time.Screw complex plans. Sabrina is being honest with Mami about her past and her feelings, dammit.
[X] Let it all out.
-[X] Hold each other together until you both feel better.
-[X] Keep reassuring Mami as much as necessary. You won't abandon her, you're sorry for hurting her; promise again you'll stay with her.
-[X] Cleanse Soul Gems as necessary; warn/ask Mami before doing it.
[X] Clean up a little; at least get rid of the snot and tears, both of you.
-[X] Once you're both calmer and cleaner, ask Mami if she wants to drink something. Make tea if yes.
-[X] Either way, wait until you're both composed;
--[X] Tell Mami you want to stay with her. Ask if she will let you live by her side.
---[X] Reafirm your promise.
--[X] Ask her how's she doing. Does she want to talk? Hold her and reassure her we're here for her.
I see Godwinson's point. Maybe Mami could really use reassurances right now before 'calming down' a bit.We intend to. But first we want to make sure that she's calm enough to actually process what we're saying. We don't want to pile a massive info dump onto her if she's still upset and uncertain of our feelings. We don't want her to start freaking out three sentences in like she did last time.
*pinches nose-bridge*I don't see the need to micromanage things that much. Firnagzen isn't pantherasapiens.
[X] Let it all out.
-[X] Hold each other together until you both feel better.
-[X] Keep reassuring Mami as much as necessary. You won't abandon her, you're sorry for hurting her; promise again you'll stay with her.
-[X] Cleanse Soul Gems as necessary; warn/ask Mami before doing it.
[X] Clean up a little; at least get rid of the snot and tears, both of you.
-[X] Once you're both calmer and cleaner, ask Mami if she wants to drink something.
-[X] Either way, wait until you're both composed;
--[X] Tell Mami you want to stay with her. Ask if she will let you live by her side.
[X] Hold onto Mami tightly. Turn the grief that you're pulling from your soul gems into solid grief, so it stops pinging Mami's senses as much.
[X] "When I woke up in that alleyway, I knew things about you and the others like you might from reading a story about everyone, bits and pieces, at a remove. I didn't know anything about myself, but I knew that I wanted to help. I knew that I wanted to be friends with the people I knew about. I knew that you were lonely, and I knew why, and that I wanted to make it so you weren't lonely any more. I wanted to make you happy, but I didn't expect you to make me so happy. I don't want to lose that, Mami. I don't want to lose you. But I couldn't stand keeping the truth from you. I'm sorry."
[X] Make sure that Mami is registering what you're saying before starting. Shouldn't need to be said, but there it is.
-[X] Keep reassuring Mami as much as necessary. You won't abandon her, you're sorry for hurting her; promise again you'll stay with her.
You want to create a monster.Godwinson vote is basically this line but 1000x better. The two votes aren't particularly mutually exclusive. Just saying.
They kind of are. Onmur's vote is to focus on letting Mami recover for a bit, then gauge how she's doing before deciding if she's ready for us to continue. Godwinson's vote wants to finish telling Mami the metabomb right now.The two votes aren't particularly mutually exclusive. Just saying.
I think that we definitely want to remain her friend and keep living with her. (I really want to, at some point in this conversation, tell Mami that she's the closest thing that we have to family.) We're going to have to put off any discussion of romance for the foreseeable future, because with how unsteady Mami is right now we'd be concerned about possibly taking advantage of her. (If Mami brings it up, I suggest we put it off by saying we're not ready yet. It's essentially true, and doesn't hurt her feelings by implying that she's an undesirable partner.)On topic - it might be an idea to examine where the relationship should go from here. We already know Mami's weaknesses and desires, to some extent, but what are our own? We should be able to at least sit down with her at some point and discuss them - if nothing else it'll be a nice change from psyche-destroying revelations.
They kind of are. Onmur's vote is to focus on letting Mami recover for a bit, then gauge how she's doing before deciding if she's ready for us to continue. Godwinson's vote wants to finish telling Mami the metabomb right now.
[] Let it all out.
-[] Hold each other together until you both feel better.
-[] Keep reassuring Mami.
--[] You're so sorry, you never wanted to hurt her. You wanted to make her happy. To be happy, together.
--[] When you first met, it was so perfect. You were alone, you had a bunch of stuff you knew in your head, like someone had ripped the most important pages off a few biographies, mashed them together and shoved them in your brain. You didn't know how much you could trust that, you still don't, not really. What you knew for sure is that she, Mami, she's one of the kindest people there can be, and that she wanted a friend. We latched onto that. We wanted a friend. We thought we could make her happy, if only we were good enough. We wanted to make her happy.
--[] We want her to be happy. Not to hurt her like this. We're so sorry.
-[] Cleanse Soul Gems as necessary; warn/ask Mami before doing it.
[] Clean up a little; at least get rid of the snot and tears, both of you.
-[] Once you're both calmer and cleaner, ask Mami if she wants to drink something.
-[] Either way, wait until you're both composed;
--[] Tell Mami you want to stay with her. Ask if she will let you live by her side.
What if it were present tense instead of past tense?"To be happy, together." -- too early. Direct contradiction of the earlier thingy, which despite being a fuckup was true.
That is true, after all.--[] You're so sorry, you never wanted to hurt her. You want to make her happy. To be happy, together.