Anyway, my take on the options:
[ ] Paranoia. What is this?
Focus on figuring out WHY she just broke down like that and also why she's making demands of US.
Because she sounds pretty dysfunctional and fishy.
[ ] Guilt. What did I do?
Suggests that we think WE fucked up here, somehow, and hurt her.
Kakara's pacifist roots revealed here, she doesn't want to hurt anyone, even someone like her.
[ ] Distance. Time to leave, this is helping nobody.
Back off at the sight of tears. May help her get time to gain control of herself, and likely figure out that you could manipulate Kakara through weakness.
[ ] Reconciliation. Please let me help.
As had already been stated, we can reconcile only by folding to her and giving in.
Which we could, if you know, anyone felt like giving in to HER here.