Okay...so it's taken me about a week to post because...well...I got heated. Reading the comments got me really, really heated. For lots of reasons. But mainly because it seemed like almost the entirety, at least in so it seems of those posting comments, of the community seems to have failed to grasp the understanding of what makes a doormat a doormat. And I do mean the entire community, both those who say he is a doormat have it wrong and fail to grasp it, and those who say he isn't are right, but are wrong and fail to grasp
why he isn't. I couldn't figure out why until....
So yes, there isn't any fixed rule on what constitutes doormat behavior, hence a lot of the back and forth in the thread. For me, it's just that almost every word, action and thought I see in the the chapter from Joe are about other people, or avoiding the situation. He spends a lot of time making sure the CF doesn't push back on Parian. He worries about Aisha, and Survey. There is a single sentence where he acknowledges that what happened is messed up, but it's immediately followed by but we have to ignore it for these reasons. I guess basically if I tried to envision a completely doormat reaction from Joe to Parian's actions, it would strongly resemble what we got in the chapter, just maybe a bit moreso. Of course this isn't helped by the fact that a non doormat reaction wouldn't really be significantly different either, not without going into pointless extremes. Really there is a narrow band of actual viable reactions that Joe could have in this situation so it makes it harder to make a strong point.
And thank you Vysirez, without this I'd likely still be confused and heated beyond belief. If I am right, you are correct in how everyone is viewing this whole doormat issue. And that view is
why everyone is failing to understand whats going on. Because there
is a fixed rule on what constitutes doormat behavior.
Mentality.
Specifically, the mentality known as Learned Helplessness. No matter where you go, or what doormat you meet, whether it's Pre-Jason Kaneki from Tokyo Ghoul, or Pre-Trigger Joe, and yes, even Taylor, they were all doormats. And while their doormatnish came in various flavors from Kaneki's 'Good people don't hurt others, so do what mama tells you and be a good person because your a good person right?' to both Joe and Taylor just being
beaten down by their family and system respectively, the fundamental core of their decision making was driven by Learned Helplessness. And
that is the defining factor on whether someone's reasonings and actions are determined to be that of a doormat or not.
Now take a look at the chapter again and look to see if any of Joe's decisions were fueled by the mentality of Learned Helplessness, and you'll find it wasn't. He has many, many, ways to bury Parian if he wishes, but he doesn't want to. Not because 'that's just how life works', or 'it is, what it is', or 'nobody would believe me anyways', or 'I don't have the power to make a difference', or 'nothing would change anyways' or any other trademark phrases one consistently hears from those suffering from Learned Helplessness. No, he chooses not to because it's already been handled to
his satisfaction as it can be and he has bigger fish to fry, and that is as far from Learned Helpless as you can get.
If you've read this far, thank you for your time, patience and attention, and apologies if my points don't come out as clear as I hoped they would.