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I would be 100% for Kaizuki, if it weren't for the
line.
Opening with the general cases and questions of talking to adults was not manipulative. It could reasonably have come off as manipulative, as it appears to have, but it was entirely sincere and was placed where it was in the conversation for reasons that (at least as far as I was aware, perhaps I was misreading intentions) didn't even include getting Sayaka to agree to something in the general sense and then trying to apply it to Oriko.
There are arguments to be made that any attempt to plan a conversation to the degree that we do could be considered manipulative. However, Sayaka doesn't seem to be in the mood to examine nuanced distinctions in this situation, and I worry that saying that it was manipulative is going to leave her thinking it was a considerably more calculated action of manipulation that it actually was. The conversation was ordered based on general thoughts about it flowing better and being a good way to lead into a discussion, not based on getting Sayaka to follow a particular line of thinking that influenced her opinion. It was structured in such a way that it seemed like were were trying to manipulate her, which we absolutely should apologize for, we should have noticed that and done something different. But we weren't trying to manipulate her, and we shouldn't be apologizing for something we weren't doing, especially when it's going to make her sure we were doing it.
It's the difference between bumping into someone and apologizing for not seeing them versus apologizing for shoulder-checking them. Despite actually hitting them, if you apologize for shoulder-checking them, it's going to come off as entirely more intentional. No matter how much remorse you show, you'll still come off as more of a dick for intentionally wanting to hit them and only repenting after being called out as opposed to being careless and inattentive in the first place.
*some guy tells me to revert a line to what GW wrote*
Uhhhhhh... sure! Okay. Done. Edited.