An Essay On Metabomb
Or, "How to tell the truth and get hugs."
K. So, the first thing is so:
No lies.
I mean, I think that's pretty obvious to everyone, but for fuck's sake we aren't going to lie to Mami while we're pouring our heart out to her. If we did and she found out it'd break her. Maybe not immediately. Maybe not for years. But if she figures out we lied to her without us being the ones to tell her it'd ruin everything the metabomb stands for (disclosure, truth, equality amongst friends, rejection of the morale-endangering idea that we are someone who will manipulate and string-pull our friends and comrades). And that's just point A [see appendix 1]. So we're just not going to do it.
Corollary to that, no lies of omission. Same reason as the above. Except, like, no just no. That would be a complete violation of [see appendix 2] as well as something that could be turned against us in the future ("you're no better than Kyubey!").
So we're going to tell her everything we've ever done or thought about, then, Kaizuki? No. Not in one go, some of it maybe never. Why and on what basis? Primarily, rule of trivialities. Mami doesn't care about that one time that we put on a maid costume and faceplanted into Oriko + Kirika, except as a funny story that we should totally share with her sometime to pick up another Ohsabrina. If somebody tells her that we didn't tell her about it and so we're obviously evil, she's going to look at them funny and then punt them with a musket.
Exception A to that last paragraph: we like Mami, some portion of us (might?) even Like Mami. We're going to omit that last bit unless she asks.
Corollary: it's really, really hard to sift through all of PMAS and determine exactly what all would be covered. In general, anything Mami doesn't know about that we've done or that we know that doesn't fall under "stuff you'd expect a SuperSpecial newbie meguca to do / know." See appendix 3 for some specific stuff that we're going to talk about that might not be obvious, though.
Corollary: the Amy Dallon doctrine: everybody occasionally has some bad thoughts, most people don't find it necessary to talk about them, we're not going to go "oh this one time I thought about forcibly pumping grief into meguca because reasons."
Corollary: if Mami asks about something, it isn't trivial.
Now, there's some things that we know that Mami probably doesn't want to know. By that I mean the witchbomb, maybe some other stuff falls into this. But for fuck's sake we're not going to just omit it, that's what Kyubey did. No, we're going to disclaimer it. We're going to tell her that, using the witchbomb as an example, [see appendix 4]. We try to give as little indication of the nature of the issue as possible, while outlining the scale and nature of her probable reaction to the issue, we reassure her about it (we're trying to fix it, she mustn't give up hope, etc.), and we guarantee to her that if she asks us to, we'll tell her. And just to make this really clear, if she asks us, we tell her. Even if it's the witchbomb.
Corollary: the names of those persons who know about such things are not covered by their right to privacy.
Corollary: If something falls under a disclaimer issue for whatever reason (like the fact that we have "knowledge" of that one time when Mami went Tetris), it is locked up with the disclaimer. Because Tetris isn't something we want to talk about as part of "what we knew about Mami when we contracted."
Now, by this point I'm sure you're all going "Okay, Kaizuki, that's all well and good, but isn't that stuff all basically a big fat DUH put into overspecific terms?" Uh, yeah. It is. But I really needed to get it out of the way because now I have to talk, uh… "tone." Or, like, conversation plans. That stuff.
So, probably the big issue of the night between us and Mami is the "I knew you" part itself. But before even that, we need to cover some prep with Mami, because we're not going to let this be like some Madokami-damned TV drama where somebody reacts to the one part of the story without the entire truckload of circumstances. So, something like this: "everything I'm about to say is completely serious, parts of this are probably going to be fairly jarring, please hear me out fully when those come up, because I don't want to lose you, Mami. So, there's… not just one story, I guess, but… let me tell the whole story each time?" [footnote one]
"I don't think I have a past before that alley. Because I knew you, somewhat, but you… didn't know me." That, or some variation, is our opening of the metabomb. I've had others, similar, not that different. Some more blatant, some more subtle, etc. But always the same starting point. Then we talk about what we knew about her. The analogy I've always couched it in, in my head, is that it's like having read a really cut-down biography about her before meeting her. Which is… really quite accurate. We also talk about and emphasize what we did not know about her -- e.g. Insect armageddon -- because doing so enhances the biography analogy and drives home that we don't randomly know everything about her as well as providing more basis for (see next paragraph w/ "from xxxxxx to best friend"). After that, we then go on to talk about how that influenced our actions towards her… as well as how our opinion of her has evolved over time. In essence, we summarize the thread's thought process regarding Mami as time has passed. Makes sense, right? How is that anything but literal disclosure? And, gee, it's a funny thing: that thought process has evolved over 3.7k pages from, uh… [see Appendix 5]... to, well, show of hands, who here is now attached to Mami? Eh? Yeah. S'what I thought.
So those are the terms we couch that in. Biography analogy, then "since I met you, Mami, it's like it's gone from… having heard good things about someone, to having them be your best friend. To knowing how wonderful a person you are, Mami, instead of having been told it. You keep asking me not to leave you, Mami… I don't want to leave you. If you'll let me stay."
And how is that anything but exactly what happened in this thread. Cool, right?
Now, the obvious question to arise here is why the fuck did you keep this secret, Sabrina? And why was it so hard to talk about in the first place? Well, why did we? Unfortunately the fact of the matter is that the original vote (attached to Story Post #2, hot damn that was a long time ago) was unanimous on keeping quiet with basically no discussion. Lol. Why it was so hard to talk about is pretty simple: we'd already kept it secret, and so talking about it… huge potential for making us out as an evil manipulatrix.
Because Mami trusts us, and we trust her, and we're going to sit down and tell her the whole story, not just enough to make us look evil or some shit. The first thing we're going to cover, when we sit down with Mami, is so: we're going to sketch what we knew about her, we're going to explain why that made us choose to accept her offer of hospitality over Homura's, ("Homura is… you're Mami. You're warm, friendly, you have cake,
There is a chance we could, like, run out of time tonight or something. In that case we leave off with some variant of either "what's left isn't too important, we could do this again or we can just let it all come up in passing" if everything big is covered, or "there's more. It doesn't have to come now, though."
Corollary to that, though: by Madokami, this happens tonight. If there's some fucking shitguca riot in Asunaro that we have to go quell at 8 PM right as we're about to talk about this, then we will stretch a ribbon from Mitakihara to Caw Caw City in a damn timestop. And then we will go back home, have some tea and hugs for a little while to calm down. And then we either talk, or we go to bed "early" and wake up early and talk then.
Footnote 1
That's going to be a theme here, btw, us not wanting to lose Mami. Tonight is going to be partly (a lot) about making our side of the relationship clearer to her, and a huge part of that is that we value Mami just as highly as she values us. And we kinda do. Every post about us going from 0 to witchysuperpowers via Mami getting killed? Yeah, we value her. A lot. It's not just that we "aren't going to leave her." It's that we don't want to leave her and we want to stay with her. All these times we've told her that we won't leave her and jeez we really haven't done a great job of vocalizing that in other, more positive terms.
Appendix 1
B) The more Mami knows, the better capable she is of acting in the interest of herself and her friends including us.
C) Keeping secrets makes us look like Kyubey. Part of what we need to do here is make it very clear that she has upgraded to the SabrinaFriend, not traded in a KB for an SV.
D) Our mental health is a concern, however minor. Keeping secrets is hard.
E) Other reasons not listed
Appendix 2
Appendix 3
Why we told Homura about our metaknowledge before we told Mami ("Homura knows things. How, why, and what are… probably her prerogative.")
The damage to Oriko that we concealed from Mami when we fought O + K early on & why we did it
-may be expanded?-
Appendix 4
Appendix 5
What we originally thought about Mumi, some quick and not necessarily 100% representative examples (sourced from around page 17 if someone wants to go look at the vicinity). Note the utter lack of, well, "Mami for Mami's sake."