I think... that the most important thing about a romantic partner, would be... if they
care about you and have your back and be there for you. This remains true for family and close friends, and it remains true for potential love interests too.
Not, 'how interesting they are as a character.' Not, 'how impressive they are as a mage or person or repository of history or mystery.'
But how much
emotionally invested they can get in you. Can you go to them for comfort? Can you bring your problems to them and be confident in knowing that they'll care about them and try to help you with them or lend a listening ear, or at least be able to understand and care about your problems? Do you share enough culture and norms to naturally understand or just sorta-easily-get, on a simple and ground-base level, what is going on in the other being's head
emotionally very easily? Do you have the same rough expected age or lifespan, or at minimum would "a hundred years" be a significant chunk of their life? Can you live in the same society or household together? Look, these are very simple and practical and comfortable fundamental ideas.
But most important of all, is "Will this person cherish and love you?" We can go to, for example, Anton or Johann or Regimand or maybe even Roswita with some of our problems or issues or doubts, and expect them to care about them off the bat, just because of who we and they are. That's good. Even if a Grey Wizard wounds up keeping lots of secrets and doesn't share everything, the fact is still important that those things that aren't super-secret-agent-classified can be shared.
I think the dragon's an interesting person. And knows lots of interesting stuff. I'd be interested in hearing more about their life, more about magic, and so on. But as a romantic partner or someone to love? No.
We got confirmation that Cython would not be cold enough for this to be an issue:
And being hugged by people bigger than you is just as nice. They've got
specialized hugging limbs , even, so they can hug while they work. Can humans say the same?
Physical intimacy is what I was talking about, not
temperature. Being able to sleep in the same bed. Being able to work in the same house. Being able to pick a person up and carry them in your arms if they're tired or sleepy or hurt. Being able to hug your kids.
Johann, on the other hand? He's our golden punch-wizard adventuring buddy, he was immediately on board with the Karag Dum expedition, and I doubt that he's gonna be satisfied with anything less than Lord Magister. Plus, he's almost as fond of the Dawi as the thread is!
Johann only stopped when he was blinded. And even then he was gearing up for another go.
And I don't know if Mathilde has ever stopped.
This could be a matter of perspective, actually it almost certainly is, but I feel that of the two, Johann's drive is a better match for Mathilde than Panoramia's.
Huh, yeah, I hadn't quite thought about it in that way but... One of Johann's things is that he literally
can go on adventures with Mathilde. Is willing, and is able, to.
Having someone be able to have your back, in the shenanigans you get up to, is good. In a friend or comrade-in-arms or love or family.
'Course, Johann's kind of ahead on the adventures meter, because we've actually been able to go on adventures with him. Scouting and attacking Skaven. Shared experiences matter, I think. (As an aside in general and not just for right now... To connect this to even the first half of this post too... The past matters. Not just a nebulous future of uncertainties. Having shared things with people. And not just speculating on what they might be capable of psychologically.)
As an example of what I mean, in practice... Let's take a hypothethical question: if Mathilde were to die or be cursed or maimed
right now,
who would care? Johann and Panoramia would care. Probably a hell of a lot. Anton and Regimand would care a hell of a lot, and so would Belegar. Roswita would care. Even Kragg or possibly even Asarnil would be sad! Would the Dragon care? Not really. A sanguine shrug of disappointment is about the most I would expect.
And that, that matters. 'Who would care?' 'Who
does care?'
Who do you want to build your life with? Somebody who you know can care, because they
already care. I don't think going into it with 'Well maybe they'll grow to care in the future, you don't know!' is the best approach to take because, as I said, the past matters. Not just hypothethicals or theories.