I disagree heavily with the people trying to make this choice about 'self vs others'—Ling Qi is explicit about it both being her path of cultivation, and how she wants to treat others. All choices are related to her self and others, and it's not a binary this one that one. It's designed to be paradoxical and 'self vs others' is overly simplistic.
I also think people are very quick to try painting the options they do or don't like with such words as 'torture' or 'heroic' or 'most ambitious' when any of the options are equally capable of those things...
For example, freedom, the all-consuming ideal of Western civilisation, is all well and good but it requires restrictions. A person bestowed with absolute choice is a tyrant unless they restrict themselves.
So please think in a way a little bit more nuanced than 'freedom==good' or 'fear==bad'.
The question is very Derrida, though.