Okay, I'm almost caught up on things, but before I am, I'm sorry. You kinda just nudged my soap box, @Andelevion. And, @Alectai, you kinda kicked it. Now, while I am a fan of Bai Meizhen (which is obvious to anyone who read my omake, I'm sure) and hoping that is a possible out come later on, I'll be fine if it doesn't. However, why do people seem to think friendship and relationship are mutually exclusive? I mean, yeah, the friendship might be the more important aspect, but my mom and dad? Best friends, and they'll have been happily married for 33 years, as of this July. I can understand being attracted to someone or having a crush on someone that isn't your friend, I've had it happen myself. However, in the case of crushes, if I found I couldn't be friends with said person, the crush died. I still found them attractive, but I was no longer attracted to them.
In fact, I can't fathom having a serious relationship with anyone I can't be friends with. So, no we shouldn't neglect being her friend, but that is completely unrelated to whether or not we become girlfriends.
This is an even slighter nudge to my soap box, but the solution to this is even simpler. You agree before you start dating that your friendship with each other is the more important relationship between you, and that if the two of you find you can't make a "relationship" work, you will go back to friendship rather than let a failing relationship ruin both.
Now, maybe I could only pull this off because I'm neurologically divergent, but it makes sense to me.
On to other concerns entirely on it:
As to concerns over the ages being fairly young: This is a setting like a fantasy feudal China. At 14 to 15, you're already going to be accepting the responsibilities of adulthood. The reason adulthood is so high in modern times is due to some matters of health (Not such a concern for an immortal) and some matters of emotional and responsibility-based maturity. In this setting, we are already expected to be responsible enough to be considered something of an adult. If we were a vanilla-mortal, the physical maturity of our age would be an issue due to the possible health ramifications of baring a child at such a young age, but we're not, so it's not. As to emotions? That's the only reason our age might be something of an issue, and it's something that is becoming less of one as we learn meditation and mastery of our minds.
Besides, I have a great-aunt and uncle that were dating when they were in 7th grade. They married when they graduated, and have been married ever since. They're in there 70's or 80's now. A relationship started at a young age can work, if you're willing to put in the effort to continue learning about each other, accepting each other, and loving each other.
Now, I won't be pushing for "Push her down and have your wicked way with her," even if we do start a relationship with Meizhen, for a while. Partly because this is SV, not QQ, and partly because we are still awfully young, but you can have a romantic relationship without sexual interaction. Otherwise, my grandpa and grandma (who were married for over fifty years, until she passed away about two years ago) would not have had the romantic relationship they had the last decade.
As to Ling Qi not currently showing overt attraction to females? That's the only reason I won't be getting my hopes up even now. Because Ling Qi may not have any such leaning. Now, I hope she does, but if not, I'll accept it with good grace.
Now to get caught up on everything else.
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