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So, basically.
Your perspective is that we shouldn't even try to get them to turn it down, except through naked threat of force, correct? Because they're too dumb to be tricked, smart enough to recognize the threat implicit with being an agent of the Cai, and once they commit to moving, they will fight to the death and not even try to make peace? But if threatened hard enough out the gate they'll give us whatever we want?
If your perspective is that they will automatically attack unless intimidated first and will fight to the death once committed... Uh...
Like I said, it is really weird that you think approaching an ambush predator and screaming "I KNOW YOU'RE OUT THERE COME OUT AND FACE ME" is going to have it... Cower before you and offer you whatever you want at your whim.
This fiction of "Option two is the only peaceable approach" is straight up ridiculous. Because it completely assumes that these are both inhuman (In which case we must assume they will automatically attack if they have advantage), but also react to threat displays like humans might (By begging for their lives and safety)
Which is it? Are they beasts who will ravenously attack because meat and intrusion on their territory? Are they people who can be convinced not to attack? You can't have it both ways when we have no contact with these things and no idea how they actually think.
Because guess what? Spirits don't think like humans is a constant running theme, and the ones that don't regularly interact with humans can't even convincingly fake it like the ones that do socialize with humans can.
Christ, this vote is ridiculous. The ridiculous fiction of "Actually option three is the most hostile approach" is a hell of take based on literally a handful of demagogues imagining it up and then pushing that narrative without pause.
This is some weird readings of what other people are saying. And honestly, you seem to be relying on wishful thinking instead of a textual basis.
So first, people aren't saying "Option two is the only peaceable approach". They're saying basically two things. "Option two is the only one where Ling Qi
tries to make peace" and "Option two is the most likely to result in a peaceable resolution". These are both very very easily defensible takes.
Second, they're ambush predators who habitually attack weak or unprepared prey from advantage. They are currently hunting us as food. Letting them persist in their perception that they have the advantage in the situation plays into their predator instincts. Confronting them openly short-circuits their typical pattern of hunting. This may or may not work, but it is the option which looks at their nature as spirit beasts and tries to navigate the situation with it in mind, for our own benefit. Option 3 does nothing like this, letting the spiders' hide->prepare->ambush loop play out uninterrupted.
It makes perfect sense for an ambush predator to break off an ambush to aware prey, so your attempt at highlighting contradiction is something of a false dichotomy. There's nothing inconsistent, and nothing humanocentric, about the idea we can possibly nudge them out of trying to eat us. It's
your argument which seems to be throwing out all nuance on how an entity's nature influences its reaction to situations, by insisting on hard binaries of things being ONE or the OTHER. In reality, everything is shades of inclination, predilection, and instinct. A spider is going to do spider things because that's what they do, but they're also intelligent creatures capable of communication. It's not some big contradiction.
Lastly, you've been consistently escalating your rhetoric about option 2 being BIG STRONG LING QI BULLY SPIDERS option, which is pretty ridiculous. You're claiming that the option is about cowing the spiders into submission to do whatever we want, but it plainly isn't. The entire purpose of option 2 is to
present ourselves as formidable. The goal is to get to the negotiation table without being thought of as food, no more no less. That's it. Going on about "gunboat diplomacy" when our demand is "stop trying to eat me, so we can talk" is pretty silly.
Like, seriously, you're framing standing up tall and making noise when facing a bear as some deeply immoral unfair act of subjugation. While defending a plan that amounts to deliberately leaving out food for the bear laced with poison and shrugging that it doesn't have to eat the food and yelling at it would be mean. It's incoherent.