This is because we continually ignored the Ever Evil and struck peace with them.
You're misremembering. There was no peace (or even diplomatic relations) with either Urth or the Caradysh... until Urth reached out to us to ally against the Forluc, and from then on neither Urth nor the Caradysh did anything to betray us. They became, in fact, our most useful allies.
You can argue that we ignored the Caradysh and bad things happened, but not that we made peace with the Caradysh and bad things happened; that is precisely the opposite of what happened.
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And this is why I've been so upset. We have launched unprovoked attacks, even after they tried diplomacy with us, yet the people clamoring for war seems to ignore that.
No reason to be upset. At the end of the day, it's just a game; and if our civilization burns by the voters' will; well, it was arguably the more realistic outcome all along.
Until that outcome is made inevitable, however, we need actual intelligence and dialog. To preemptively remove all possibility for peace is not the action of someone "afraid of appeasement", but rather the action of someone afraid of finding out that said peace might actually be possible. Enemies talk to one another because despite the (in this case, probably one-sided) hate, it's still the sane thing to do.
[X] [SEC] Diplomatic Outreach = (Caradysh)
[X] [SEC] Venerate the Goddesses
and, of course, there is no reason to only hear from a single source:
[X] [SEC] Trade Expedition = (Sinsearysh)
Walls and temples:
[X] [SEC] Change up to two Passive Policies (Agriculture+Agriculture->Infrastructure+Infrastructure)
[X] [SEC] Change up to two Passive Policies (Agriculture+Agriculture->Infrastructure+Infrastructure) x2
Bronze isn't going to save us from being overrun in the event of total war, but hey, it's a good deterrent and trade good:
[X] [Metal] Yes, they send an expedition into both the Sunrise Mountains and the Sunset Mountains. (Temp Econ--, ???)
[X] [Cadlon] Priestess Elyna of Greenbay. (Excellent Admin, ???)