Yeah, except that's not obvious from Xue's perspective. It specially won't be so if we do what has been proposed, which will be regarded as basically a huge gamble because that's how this ridiculous people would see insulting someone with political importance to their face.Ignoring Xue from this point forward is actually how we best snub her. Our goal here isn't to recruit Pol Ning, so if the girl doesn't take our offer then that's on her.
From their PoV, we are making an enormous effort over this. It is effortless for us, but no everyone can be us.