[] Plan Best Diplomatic Foot Forward
-[] Delay the actual wedding.
--[] Until the beginning of spring. (This is a Moderate Request)
-[] Request that all your children have the Name Targaryen, with Qoren's heir taking the Martell name upon succession. (This is a Moderate Request)
-[] Request absolute cognatic inheritance of both titles to be spelled out in the agreement. The firstborn inherits the Iron Throne, the secondborn Dorne, regardless of gender. (This is a Moderate Request)
-[] Ask for a voice on Stepstone matters. (This is a Moderate Request)
-[] Request Qoren to join you on your remaining royal progress. (This is a Minor Request)
-[] WRITE-IN: Request to change the wedding ceremony to leave out the cloaking
This is the Susano plan but adding Stepstones and progress plank to start our diplomatic strategy and delay until spring to increase our preparation.
-[] Request control over where all your kids, save Qoren's heir, are raised. (This is a Major Request)
I wouldn't put it quite that way. And there are more material advantages: if we want our kids to be able to claim Vermithor, Silverwing, et al when they grow older, we had better be damned sure we can place them on Dragonstone when they're of the right age. And likewise to keep them away from littler dragons until they're that age.
I feel this plank together with name is too aggresive a request. I feel it show that we are too suspicious with Qoren to agree with us on how the kid is raised. Especially with the Targaryen name the children are more legally our rather than Qoren.
By explicitly requesting it on the treaty that we are the controller of children we put on writing that we didn't trust Qoren to raise children in a shared household. Weakening our personal relation and our political bloc.