- Pronouns
- He/Him
There's a difference between hurting someone out of emotional weakness (or because you think it's for their own good, though that's far less common than abusers like to claim) and outright sending your so-called loved ones to die. And I am exceedingly skeptical of any claim that a cultivator of Sun Shao's level is weak in any way.
Those examples aren't actually mostly either of those things, though. Like, only the second example fell into either category there. A lot of people hurting those they care for is just prioritizing something else over the person they care about, either themself, another person, or a cause, and doing that doesn't always mean they don't care. It can, certainly, but it doesn't always.
Like, someone leaving their lover to go do Doctors Without Borders is not being emotionally weak, they are prioritizing their cause over their lover. Someone taking care of their child who is sick rather than their friend who's going through a bad breakup is prioritizing their kid over their friend. Someone who is prioritizing following their own dreams over the job their parents got them knowing it will break their parents hearts is prioritizing their own needs over those of their parents.
And all of those are perfectly normal, potentially healthy, decisions (they can also be unhealthy, because context is everything). And all are choosing to hurt a person they care about to achieve something. Sun Shao takes that tendency too far...inhumanly too far, but it's a normal part of the human condition to do it to some degree.