[X] While you will be present as much as you can, your household cannot be top priority yet. (Status quo)
I think putting more time into our household just now, while not a bad thing per se, would come with a few too many drawbacks.
One, we have significant duties with regards to Cai Renxiang and the Duchess, which are more pressing for now.
Two, we have given our mother free reign over the household just a few months ago and she is doing well, I'd like to not be too overbearing just yet. The relationships are still relatively new, and a lot of the cultivation stuff we are involved in seems downright terrifying to mostly-mortals. Having to hide that while spending more time with our family doesn't seem particularly healthy for either side.
Three, LQ is already juggling a lot of social obligations, her family is one of them, but it would be a mistake to neglect her friends over it. They are just as much part of her in-group.
Four, Hanyi is a bit of a terror, it would probably be better for everyone if she could practice her social skills on cultivators for a while, first...
On the other hand, this is the kind of decision that can be delayed again and again, so to counteract that I'd personally like to precommit to pushing for more family time as soon as we are through Cai Shenhua's challenge. Unfortunately that doesn't mean too much in a format like this, but I will do so nonetheless.
On the contrary, now, in the Sect, is likely the most free time we'd ever have for the foreseeable future.
We're in College. Theres assignments pinching at us, theres connections to be made, and theres that killer Final Year Project/Thesis Defense looming ahead with vague requirements for passing.
Once we go out, we have duties in the army, where our family is unlikely to be anywhere near, for our own peace of mind if nothing else. We have duties to the fief administration, and given a border fief, is going to involve flying out there and alternately punching or bribing uppity spirits. All of which makes it much harder than meeting our family in a safe zone, within a short sprint of our primary work and residential area, and where we're free to set our own schedule.
Yrsillar is not in the habit of giving meaningless event choices.
Our choices define how Ling Qi does things in the absence of a specific decision point.
Our choice to try to turn every social action into cultivation meant that our social time with our friends is primarily focused around Exploration(which is actually cultivation because EPC), Sparring(which is actually cultivation because EPC) or Meditating(which is cultivation). With the natural consequence of drifting away from socials which do not provide any immediate cultivation advantages.
We've tried with limited success to pair up our social links so we can do more of them at once. Didn't work out though.
This choice effectively means that we make a conscious decision to place our cultivation above family concerns, though we've yet to place work within that ranking.
And the entire arc leading up to this choice is all about facing and acknowledging that we've been doing so.
On a more practical level, look at our social event allotment and look at the upcoming issues we need to fix in our Family Circle:
-Qingge is now Red. What now for her cultivation? She can use drugs now, and we could check out Red arts(particularly cultivation arts, since our Red cultivation art is Sect-only) of reasonable quality for her to keep progressing.
--Do we want to introduce her to our friends now that she has a minimum competency? Meizhen may need more preparation, but Xiulan or Suyin should be fine. Do we want to introduce her to our boss?
-Zhengui had just woken up in Green, he needs to adjust to his new power and he needs to get to know Sixiang, as well as work out how he functions as a team with Hanyi.
-Hanyi has massive amounts of fresh trauma that needs to be adapted to. She's also got little tact or social graces, both of which needs work if she's to not disrupt other activities. Qingge took it in good grace, but if we wish her to perform with us at the parties, she's going to need to learn to avoid causing offense first.
-Sixiang is fine for now.
At our current spread of socials per turn, if we want to address all these, then we're going to be looking at missing out on:
-Cai Renxiang - We keep meaning to meet her in more of a context than work and cultivation, but its always put off since its not in a rush. It'd be put off again of course.
-Xuan Shi - We've passed over his link twice now, because of various more urgent concerns. I don't think any of us would contest that our family concerns are going to be prioritized over him.
-Shen Hu - New link, not a big deal either way.
Meizhen, Suyin and Xiulan are fine for now. We've not had much Meizhen time lately though.
Either way, we are unlikely to be getting more social time without spending actual time on things are we?
