@Gaz , just checking on technical aspect, IMHO, it would be great if you could please consider adopting for [task] in the votes, that would make the forum auto tally works much easier and clearer on to see when multiple tasks exist, especially when multiple write ins exist. For example;
[][Marriage] You intend to marry Lu Lingqi as soon as you can, and you make it known. You start making arrangements with both of your families as soon as you can.
[][Marriage] You intend to marry Lu Lingqi as soon as you can, but keep it private for now. You will begin to make arrangements once the battles are over.
[][Marriage] You wish to marry Lu Lingqi, but you feel like you are both too young. Make a commitment to her, but this can wait until you are both older.
[][Marriage] You feel torn and confused, and undecided. You cannot make a decision on this yet, so you tell her you cannot marry her for now.
[][Marriage] You have no intention of marrying Lu Lingqi, and be honest about it with her.
[][Marriage] You have no intention of marrying Lu Lingqi, but lie to her about it.
[][Marriage] Write in?
If you
intend to marry her, will you continue to dare to have more private encounters like this, or is the risk too high?
[][Encounter] As long as you keep it private and don't get caught, what does it matter? You won't let society get in the way of your love.
[][Encounter] You cannot risk the consequences and won't push societal expectations that far. You can both wait until marriage before you meet again like this.
[][Encounter] Write in?
If you
do not intend to marry her, you may still wish to get closer to her like this, even if you do not get wed.
[][Encounter2] Yes, and damn the consequences.
[][Encounter2] No, you are serious about not marrying her and although it pains you, from now on, you can only treat her like any other retainer.
[][Encounter2] Write in?
Edit: language to emphasize suggestion politely