Why do people
assume Jedi aren't allowed to have sex? Why do people
assume Jedi aren't allowed to love despite that being
explicitly contradicted on-screen, in addition to being completely ridiculous and pointless?
The PT is
about Anakin's fall to the Dark Side (in addition to the Republic's fall, and Palpatine setting up the genocide of the Jedi), and Anakin's fall is a direct product of him fixating on his fear of losing the people he's attached to, and later his attachment to his own choices when he can't face his mistakes without trying to justify them as not mistakes.
Trying to justify Anakin's choices by giving the Jedi draconian rules about sex, or forbidding them to love (without attachment or possession) in contradiction to what's said on-screen (albeit only once in the PT), or forbidding them to experience/acknowledge emotion despite that being the
complete opposite of what they
repeatedly say on-screen in the PT ('be mindful of your feelings'), is missing the point -- the point is that Anakin
fucks up but can't admit it to himself.
There are
reasons Anakin does what he does, but they don't
justify what he does.
- The entire Council (TPM), then Obi-Wan (AotC) and Yoda (RotS) try to help Anakin with his fears, but he shuts them out every time. He has reasons, and they might even be sympathetic ones, but they aren't the fault of Jedi, and Palpatine is first implied then shown to be actively manipulating Anakin to get him to be even more resistant to opening up to Jedi. (PT)
- Anakin wants to put his exclusive, possessive relationship with Padme above both the galaxy and even Padme's own choices and agency, while still being trusted as a Knight with the fate of the galaxy in his hands. (AotC+RotS)
- Anakin desperately wants more someones to hurt/kill after his mother dies. (AotC)
- Anakin cannot think clearly when the people he is afraid of losing are in danger, and refuses to work to reduce his fear or improve his ability to handle fear. (RotS, at minimum)
-
AnakinVader cannot face what he has done after he helps Palpatine kill Mace Windu -- he finds himself in a hole and keeps digging in the desperate hope that it will all have been justified and/or worth it. (RotS onward)
On the quality of the romance:
- The OT isn't about Han and Leia's romance, it's just a thing that happens, while the PT is about Anakin and Padme's mutual all-consuming obsession with each other and how it destroys them and everything they love.
- Anakin's poor communication skills are an important plot point in AotC and RotS. If Anakin were a cool, smooth speaking master of relationships and communication and feelings, the story wouldn't work.