This is wrong, Yurgen Kaneko was going to die before he was Chosen and became the Bull of the North, both in 1e and 2e, and likely also in 3e so I don't really know why you're making this argument, especially when you're exactly the kind of person I'd expect to know something like that?
The Bull is something like 60 when he walks out into the ice to die of exposure because he couldn't ply his skill as a hunter for the benefit of his tribe anymore, meaning by the standards of his culture he was a burden to them and cast himself out to insure they would better survive the winter without him. Him Exalting for it is generally treated as an exception to common-knowledge about Anathema and a surprise to everyone involved, especially when his age is a huge part of the reason why his rise to power is seen as seemingly meteoric. He's a dead man who came out of the literal middle of nowhere to lead a conquering army that clashed with the Realm and came out ahead. And generally-speaking, he and Krinstet Orr are the oldest Exalts we see throughout two editions who haven't been at things for centuries prior already, with Orr also being "old, but not Too Old not to throw a good punch."
In that bit there, I'm talking people in their 70s-80s who have well passed the threshold of reclaiming their younger years in any meaningful way, not retirees from cultures who make a habit of cutting out anyone who cannot meaningfully contribute to society. That Celestial Exaltation doesn't regard "useless" people is a big part of Exalted's anti-authoritarian streak, the analysis of corruptive power dynamics and who these circumstances favor, which pushes even those who
have it to regard their suddenly-esteemed place more cynically than otherwise. Without the "why me, of all others" question lurking in the background, especially given the myriad other injustices throughout the setting, all you're left with is the wish-fulfillment angle which takes extreme expressions of violence and power over others and treats them as a net-positive worthy of no further thought paid or introspection.
My Empire is the better empire than the Scarlet Empire, not because it is incorruptible, but because it was built by
me. When Exaltation touches someone who is an exception to the standard, the question shouldn't be "so now All people like this are worthy, right?" but "why didn't this happen sooner?"
When that second question gets dismissed as a handwave, "it just Happened that way," rather than acknowledging that
all positions of powerful influence and glorified strength are suspicious figures at best, unbearable tyrants at worst, even when it was handed down to the underdogs who would wield it to do great things for those in need, you end up with a game which undercuts its prevailing themes by being toothless on the matter. If Exaltation is free to one and all, but still limited to a select few, it gives breathless confirmation that You Were The Good One, the Chosen One, the One Who Mattered unlike all the chaff of history. And chaff is what everyone else becomes with that kind of ringing endorsement. Without that baseline cynicism of its own characters, it makes every single time the books wax on about "will you doom the world or save it" into meaningless paff on par with "your choices matter," because the only way you Could doom it is by failing in tests of blunt skill, not the tests of moral fiber and integrity which trip up all heroes from myth by one means or another.
Is there a way to make Exaltation more inclusive and encompassing to characters from all stripes and circumstances? I'm sure there is, and that could be a better game for it (some would even say that game is Scion), but you're not going to get that without gutting the critique from the text, and fully endorsing the ideas that yes, this is a game about mythic heroes without any of the actual downfall of those heroes or recognition of their unheroic traits. That Ex3 is trying to do that while still upholding the vague trappings of being anti-authoritarian is a mark against it for muddling its messaging, suggesting that hey, its not POWER that was the problem, just the Person in charge.