See, the thing here is the Kongs and the Jins are pretty well known to each other after a Jin debacle had Aunty Bi called in to fix their crap:
We're definitely not going to be earning good looks anytime soon after Jin Yazhu brings us up as a Kong.
I think that the idea that Jin Yazhu and his cousin can be persuaded to not be antagonistic is laughable.
Furthermore, the wistful-ness is specifically directed to the idea that "having a strong opponent was fun", which, logically extended, is likely to result in Kong Zhi seeking out a new rival rather than avoiding one. As such, wistful is more likely to result in a pointless conflict if it gets everything it wants, not less.
This is a quest. Kong Zhi will do and think and feel whatever we damn well tell him to with the addition of some QM flavoring, so long as the QM doesn't outright tell us no. Even if you're one of the people who says fuck that, my immersion/"in-character", you ought to be seriously considering that being overly concerned with what was and what is instead of what Kong Zhi can do with it and turn it into, is also against Zhi's previously demonstrated character.
All this stuff about it being impossible for us to make any kind of worthwhile connection? That's what was said about Daiyu when people voted to stab her in the back for a shiny, then other voters had to swoop in and come up with a horribly dishonest, manipulative, retconning piece of shit out of their asses to clean up the mess and prevent another feud. Do you remember the advice QM gave us then, through the proxy of Jai Fa (IIRC)?
Now Daiyu's the waifu, budding Star cultivator, and novice charmcrafter.
I don't give a flying fuck about the Kong-Jin feud. I give a fuck about Zhi, Yazhu, maybe that one cousin if she shows up, and the nice blacksmith teacher willing to give us lessons. I give a fuck about not starting a fight that removes our ability to gain more skills, and setting the ground to hopefully prevent more backstabbing horseshit - for both sides - as long as this week lasts. Anybody basing their decisions on trying to manipulate and/or circumvent the family feud
entire is, whether for or against, either ignorant or willfully blind since Vesvius explicitly told us this quest ends after Zhi's first year IIRC.
I'm not voting for polite because I think it doesn't go far enough in preventing future backstabbing horseshit for the rest of the week.
All that's why I told anyone to give me a plan for how you intend to profit off of being rude, if that's your intention - give me a coherent idea for why being dismissive (which is absolutely antagonistic) or any other variant of not exceedingly polite and respectable profits Kong Zhi and the voters.