Further elaboration may be necessary. The "mostly" in the trust department isn't as bad as it may have sounded, and is mainly due to two types of magic: mind reading and mind-affecting.
Okay, that helps. If that's the case, hm. How much does Jade care for Sidhe outside that?
Not important. Take care of Sidhe first, determine exact description later.
Claiming you'll treasure your household members might work [...] Saying you'll only let people become your retainers if you already treasure them, maybe?
Jade considers Sidhe a good friend, enough that she feels comfortable saying that she treasures her and her friendship. Her first thought is to comfort Sidhe. And Jade apparently trusts Sidhe enough that the only reason she doesn't trust her
fully is because Sidhe has access to mental magic, which Jade wouldn't even trust herself with. At least Jade's being consistent there, and I think that that's worth taking into account.
Now that I look at it more closely, most of Jade's complaints about not wanting to define Sidhe as family boil down to lingering anxiety issues that closely parallel things we've talked about before re: this retainer position. For example:
And really, if you started dividing your friends into 'family' and 'not family,' where would it end? What's the cutoff point? How often would you be stuck trying to figure out who fit into what category? Would some friends be hurt if they weren't included?
Additionally, this:
However, you sincerely doubt you'd turn to Sidhe if you were upset and wanted comfort. You don't feel you'd be incapable of living without her. You wouldn't be comfortable sleeping with your head in her lap
These qualifications for being a sister are... kind of extreme. Like, yes, Jade isn't going to turn to Sidhe if she's upset, she's going to turn to
Agneyastra. I think that measuring Sidhe against Agneyastra's standard is kind of incredibly unfair.
Throw in the fact that Jade is focusing on the negatives right now - she's listing out all the reasons she
disagrees with our vote instead of listing any
agreements - I don't think that this picture is as bad as it seems.
if she didn't consider the full implications of how she thought about Sidhe, then I'm disappointed in her because it's the most important part of her role, and something she's focused on heavily on the past.
Between this and Sidhe's complete lack of peers for her entire life - that is, correcting for Sidhe's words misrepresenting the strength of her feelings in the
other direction - I have a feeling that Jade's and Sidhe's feelings for each other are in the same ballpark. I think that Jade's overthinking things and has standards that are making her thoughts sound worse than they are.
Also, consider the default votes:
[] Try some other method of comforting Sidhe.
-[] Point to past history and claim you wouldn't have spent so much time with her if you didn't enjoy her presence.
-[] You're still fuzzy on what it all entails, but you don't intend to let anyone become your retainer if you don't already really like them.
-[] You already treasure Sidhe, oaths or no oaths. She doesn't need to meet any arbitrary standards.
-[] You aren't a fight away from leaving her; you'd rather agree to disagree, apologize later, etc.
-[] Turning into a jerk / evil / whatever is a gradual process and you'd be able to stop that sort of thing long before it led to a breakup. She could stop you from turning into one, too.
Jade enjoys Sidhe's presence; remember that Jade is
not shy about noting when she doesn't get along with someone. Jade really likes Sidhe. Jade treasures Sidhe. Jade trusts Sidhe enough to call her out as a morality pet. Which is honestly kind of a big deal, given the arguments we had with Agneyastra about divinity and the slippery slope. Hell, given the influence that Agneyastra's demonstrated over Nanoha in the past, I wouldn't be surprised if Jade trusts Sidhe more than anybody in the world that's not Agneyastra.
edit:
"Five: I'm a glorified hanger-on right now.
"Glorified hanger-on" but also "family"?
Unrelated:
You still aren't certain you want to permanently kill any chance of a romantic relationship with Nanoha; calling her a family member now and later reviving that whole thing would be... creepy, to say the least. Or maybe that's not the right word. Gross?
We should probably start paying some attention to this. Jade's dropping some fairly big hints.