Frankly, most of your post sounds like edgy bullshit to me, this probably wasn't your intent, but it definitely is how it came out.
Ugh, yeah, a solid bit of it is still leftover salt from getting repeatedly schooled in social combat by Mrs. I Spend Willpower On Every Roll.
I do genuinely believe that- no matter how reasonable a promise she's asking for, and no matter how valid her feelings are, we
should not be making promises as a general policy, and reassuring her is just not capital-I Important enough to warrant breaking that policy.
I'm well aware such a policy doesn't actually exist; I just really think it
should.
There's a lot you can accuse Charity of, but cowardice isn't really one of them. She was willing to storm Arctis Tor with a mortal grade warhammer to get her daughter back and that is far from the only time she's done something like that.
There is not a single crisis or immediately-present threat in the face of which Charity will ever back down, no.
There is also not a single vague, long-term threat in the face of which Charity will not hide in a hole and try to drag everyone she cares about into the hole with her, there to stay indefinitely.
The fact that doing so
worked- she
did successfully get rid of her own magical talent, and eliminated the threat of "I'm a valuable prize, sacrifice, and/or reagent to any number of malicious practitioners" in the process- is perhaps the greatest tragedy of her life; she has fully internalized that if you keep your head down, danger won't come find you.
She won't ever back down from confronting evil or danger when presented with it, no. But she won't ever stop trying to
avoid its notice, either, nor trying to suppress all her loved ones in the same way.
I don't really agree with a number of her positions or methods, but it's worth acknowledging that most of her concerns have some legitimate basis with the information she actually has available.
She isn't actually wrong here either
She really isn't, no. Her concerns are legit, she's asking for a reasonable thing, I just don't agree with making commitments-
whatever commitments, no matter how reasonable- for such a petty thing as one woman's reassurance.