That's certainly doable, although the Lion are going to be at a disadvantage.
(Getting used to the idea that it's okay to throw a punch at the Emperor is a bit of a radical shift)
Openly praise the first one who lands a hit on you? Rokugani culture has a broad spectrum of warrior training. I'm *sure* that it has the language-pieces necessary to both encourage people to hit you in spite of social differences, and priase them when they do.
On the other hand, I'm not convinced this is in our best interests. Right now, we have the Emperor Card. It is cold and hard, but it has a great deal of strength in its rigidity.
So... what I'm seeing right now.... (note that this could be utterly off-base)
The Matsu woman has watched her family die around her - lost one by one to the position of lion clan champion. They have poured so *much* blood on this stone, and she's willing to fight bitterly to keep what she sees as her nephew's birthright taken from him. Has their family not paid enough? She knows what the right answer is, and she intends to see it through in the traditional Matsu way - by battering through every foe that comes between her and what her honor demands... and the other Matsu respect and support that, and will follow her in it. She's frustrated, because she is forced by these new laws to appeal to the Emperor, and the Emperor is a political force that she *cannot* honorably oppose. Half the Lion (heavy on the Matsu) followed the Emperor in the Shadowlands War even after it became clear that he was the incarnation of Fu Leng himself. The Emperor is the court fo final appeals here, and she knows that he will have Akodo biases.
This fills her with helpless frustration. Then the Empress comes to her, and suggests something deeply objectionable (specifically, that she willingly agree to *anything* other than the One Honorable And Correct Answer). Then, in the ensuing difference of opinion, the Empress (A *dragon*, no less) utterly disassembles her in one-on-one combat (however informal). Now her people are demanding reparations... and she may or may not feel that that is appropriate.
I think... I think if we can get her to bend, we can get them to bend. I think also that she is in an insecure place, and will care much more about little indications of respect and preference than the Akodo. I think this is *not* the time to let down the Imperial Aura, but rather to leverage it. Thankfully, we're actually rpetty good at Air. Unfortunately, Kaname has a 1 in that stat. Maybe we can help with that.
[x] Some One Else
-[x] First, Kaname
--[x] Go. Speak with her. Listen to what she has to say, and explain the situation. The Matsu have a sense of "honor" that is, at times, troublesome and even objectionable, and you will not dispute that. On the other hand, you are about to use that sense of honor to send them off to war against the glass golems, where a great many of them will die in your service, and in protecting Rokugan itself. You are doing what you can, where you can, but you have to work with what you have, and right now, what the Empire needs is to have the Matsu honor pointing them at the enemy rather than tearing them apart from the inside. Talk with her abotu what she suggested (not necessarily a bad idea, in other circumstances), and why it really didn't work here. Try to convince her to be willing to tender some sort of honest apology. (You are not asking your wife to lie here, or change her mind, just pick her truths, and find *something* in her behavior that she can reasonably apologize for. Check it before you go to make sure that it's the sort of thing likely to calm, rather than further enrage.)
-[x] Then Matsu Satomi (visit her in the infirmary)
--[x] With Kaname in tow, go speak with her. Kaname is to make whatever apology appropriate (to which we will add some small apology of our own, if we can do so gracefully) and then leave (unless she *wants* to stay... though if she does, she should not offer other radical suggestions until we are done). Then we ask for Satomi's side of things, and what she wants. While we're at it, we would like to know any other concerns that the Matsu have that she might know of.
--[x] Have the appropriate channels let her know when we'll be dropping by to speak with her. If a few other members of her delegation happen to be visiting her in the infirmary at the time, and perhaps wish to offer limited contributions of their own, that is also acceptable, but this is meant to be primarily a discussion between ourselves and our vassal.
--[x] Agree to nothing. Be prepared to pull out the appropriate level of the "I am the Emperor, and that borders on rudeness" card (level 1: raised eyebrow) if she tries to push the conversation too far in a hostile direction, but be willing to put it right back down again once she backs off. We understand that this is a difficult time for her.
Basically, we're giving her respect, we're giving her a chance to get some things off her shoulders, we're taking an opportunity to pick up some secondary issues if we can, and we're trying to drag our wife in the general direction of diplomatic skill. It's not quite a concession, but it should help settle them down some. It also reinforces that we're acting as her liege lord (while still caring about both her and her honor), and trying to set the tone of the discussion going forward and what we will find acceptable behavior in our presence, but doing so gently.
As always, challenges are welcomed and requested. I do from time to time crit-fail my insight checks on these things, and I would not want anyone to hold back from calling me on it because Intimidating Text Wall.
Also,
@gman391 - you probably want to threadmark that last one.