... it clearly said that Inspiration was giveing us more insane projects not more sane ones.
I am firmly on the side of her parents simply being shity parents then anything else and likely insane at least for now*.
I mean honestly the mc was very close to killing her parent before she did run away and they did try their best to turn her into a docile wallflower from what we know.
If they had tried to protect us from being an strong Inspired then they would have done something else then to look us away and take away any projects they could.
I would honestly not be surprised if they really believed that we are an weak Inspired for being an woman.
Overall i don´t think they planed for any of that, the methodes they used for that made it clear that they aren´t good parents and not all that competent.
*that will only change if we get IC information that they aren´t.
...Except they didn't seem to be trying to make her a wallflower? They seem to have taught Lorelei everything she needed to know to be an effective Inspired, they just prevented her from completing projects. Either that or she picked up an enormous amount of stuff by observation and osmosis.
She seems to have been educated in the history of the Inspired, the geopolitical situation of the local area, barring the League, and in how to treat her creations. She understands a fair amount about politics, which I guarantee you she would not, if they were trying to keep her isolated and weak as an Inspired. And she had enough access to information to know about recent events, such as the destruction of our parent's ally to the north-east.
Overall, if they wanted to keep Lorelei in the dark and unknowledgable, they did a really bad job of it. No, I don't think their goal was really to make us a meek, submissive noblewoman. We learned too much that must have come from them, or from good, expensive tutors, for that to be the case.
However, I also agree that they probably weren't trying to make us strong. Because I don't think we would be as strong as we are if we didn't start out as a fairly strong Inspired. I think our first Inspiration coming from a simple lightning rod is an indicator of that. Remember that talk about the fountains Inspiring people with their majesty and design? Yeah, we got that from a simple rod of metal on a rooftop. That screams "powerful" to me, and I suspect our parents too.
Honestly, given their general ability as Inspired, and understanding of the nature of sentient beings (hence why they taught us to respect our creations), I don't see a reason to attribute their actions to malice or crappy parenting. Since, as far as I can tell, they're both Inspired, they had to have known how painful and frustrating that would be for us, and I don't see them doing it without a reason.
Aside: Your mother is an Inspired and has collaborated with your father on numerous projects. "Do as I say, not as I do" seems to be a running theme for them and it's infuriating.
That indicates to me that they think there's a reason we shouldn't be doing as they do. Which, again, makes me think they were concerned over our safety, due to our strength.