Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Those are the things we have to sensibly consider in this complex world of rocket apes and nth dimensional beings. I'd be just as concerned about a fire-based male hero having anger based mood swings with this much red text. That's more like Playing With Fire +
Burning With Anger rather that Hysterical Woman.
I think you're finding evidence of what you are looking for
because you are looking for it. You can twist anything that way if you want to reach that far.
Nope, I started off making the mistake of reading comments instead of just the story and was rather confused by how blatant the comments were. Normaly I'm on the other side of this conversation.
The only reason she's given excuses in the first place is because she's a woman, had it been a guy the reaction would be a lot worse. It's sexist, just not in the way you're putting it as.
It was her decision to do it solely for networking which is quite callous of her, as far as everyone else was concerned it was just supposed to be a date and for someone who's supposed to be trying to network she's being extremely abrasive and working actively against her cause.
Paul and Guy talked about how he did in fact have influence with the league, I don't see why you'd say he doesn't.
She's a secret, she's not so obtuse that she wouldn't understand the importance of aquiring data on potential members of an organisation as important as the league.
Why would he even tell her about the file if he was trying to deceive her? There's no reason to believe he's not being honest when giving that sort of info, it's a show of good faith.
Insults are often gender centric, if it was a guy they'd change as well. And ther's nothing wrong with calling her a gold digger and a bitch when she's acting like one.
If it was a man doing it, people would be calling for Paul to crucify the ass hole, the only reason she's being given so much lee way is because she's a woman, not despite it. Again it's sexist, but it's most defnitely in her advantage.
Indeed, these forums seem to have an overly large amount of 'nice guys' who give women more excuses then they would if it was just another guy.
Apologizing would imply there's something to feel guilty about, there isn't.
She decided it was gonna be nothing more than a networking meeting, Paul wasn't made aware of this fact before the date started.
Bernie would be an abusive ass hole who deserve a kick in the balls and a slap in the face. Paula would be a meek woman who lack self esteem and confidence and is doomed to end up in an abusive relationship.
no, I point out when people fail to take context into acount when making judgements about characters all the time, I've also been pointing out the problems with what people have been saying about Paul too.This is just the first time I've called them out for being sexist.
Tora was also calling this a good networking chance, Guy and Paul are the only ones calling this a double date.
Again, she has been given no reason to trust Paul, beyond that Guy voached for him, and she doesn't trust Guy either. And yes she has worked in intelligence, and this knows how powerful information is. She has more reason than most to be freaked out at how much Paul knows about her, and just how easy it would be for Paul OR Guy to stalk whoever they want.
I don't have a problem with gender specific insults on their own, but these insults are being in the same way with the same justification, that makes women uncomfortable in male dominated subcultures.
If it was a man doing it, and he was crucified in the comments, it would still be sexist towards women because the commenters would be ignoring that any abuse heaped on "Paula" is what she lets, since she has all the power in the situation, just like Paul does. If either legitimately thought Bea/Bernie was out of line they would be able to put an end to it at any time. All of these things being described are still sexist. Bea is being bitchy with mood swings, implication is women are irrational, Paul is a wimp for not pushing back, implying a man shouldn't be passive, Bernie is an abusive asshole, men shouldn't be physically dominating women though they totaly can, and Paula is week and needs to be protected. All of these are sexist tropes and oversimplifications rather than an analysis of their underlying motivations and the situation.
Paul might not have done anything wrong from his perspective, though in your example you did have "Paula" apologizing, but from Bea's perspective he did, and a non-apology isn't going to satisfy her. It's very understandable for her to still be upset.