Ugh, just saw this reply because it didn't tag me. So... some counter points because, woof, there's a lot of fanon and mandela effect here.
Ginny's lack of intelligence was proven her first year; "How many times have I told you to never trust anything if you don't know where its brain is."
How many times, Mr. Weasley said. "This wasn't a one off warning, the kind of thing parents don't actually believe you'd do, it was important enough to be repeated to the point even he can't count the warnings.
We tell our kids not to touch the stove, and usually, they learn not to burn themselves.
But, this isn't a minor burn, it's her life, maybe her soul. Over and over, he warned her.
That is a supremely stupid thing to ignore. On a list of hazards, I'd put it above playing with firearms... In fact, I can't think of any warning more important. All the dangers of our world can only kill you; the wizard world can take possession of you and slowly siphon your very soul away. So yeah, she's an idiot.
A ten year old girl was tricked, gaslit, and taken advantage of by an adult. In no world does that make her stupid. It makes her a victim.
This isn't even mentioning the fact that we know Voldemort put compulsions on his Horcruxes. Or that wizards interact with things they "can't see the brain of but still think"
daily (including books )and that the warning makes no sense.
As for her being easy? Caught in broom closets twice, with two different boys, while using them to try and get Harry's attention. She wasn't with them because she loved them, or even just liked them a lot. She was using them.
Speaking as a woman, those tactics are pathetic, the grasping ways of a girl who is too immature or stupid to have a real relationship.
She was caught making out with her two boyfriends over a period of
two years. In no sane context is that even close to hypersexuality or inappropriate. Add to that she did like her assorted boyfriends. She dated them on
Hermione's advice to "see what she likes in a relationship and to get over her crush on Harry".
Hermione is the one who dated someone to make her crush jealous. Ginny just moved on and dated people who liked her... Like a normal person who starts dating.
Other "whores" by the criteria of making out with/dating people that they don't marry? Ron, Lavender, Harry, Cho, Percy, Michael, Dean, Hermione, Draco(? Not actually sure if he dated anyone actually), Penny, etc etc...
They're
kids in boarding school. They're going to mess around and date people, it's baked into the setting. And
all of them were immature.
As for the bully bit? She didn't hit people, but she "was quick to throw a hex", "with an acid bite to her tongue"
Seeing as how her favorite hex caused the mucus in your sinuses to erupt, turn into bats and attack your face... And in one scene, they left scratches on either Crabbe or Goyle, I can't recall which off hand.
Now, that I'm going to say is JKR's fault, for not thinking that through. The bat bogeys are hard enough to cut the skin and they attack your face; what if they caught an eye?
Judging by Mad Eye, eye damage can't always be fixed, and here's a teen ager allowed to cast a spell that could take an eye out.
(Please don't let Skitter be able to use that spell. She would find a way to make it target the eyes specifically.)
Still, what the books show is a girl, popular enough with boys to make her brothers worry, quick with a hex and with an acid tongue when upset.
All of which are considered positive qualities when Harry thinks about them in book. Harry has no real issues with people doing mean things to the people he doesn't like. Just look at him being happy about Hagrid hexing Dudley for something
Vernon says.
Harry doesn't like spoiled and entitled people who are mean to him and his friends. It's why he's so critical of Draco but not, say, Hermione who tends to be way more damaging when she goes off.
As for the potions, using a near squib, without enough power to even go to Hogwarts as your example of a potions brewer... I mean, can she even make a strong potion? We see no attempts by squibs to make potions, muggles can't, so there must be a certain amount of magic in the brewer to make a potion work.
That said, it is entirely possible that poor Merope simply couldn't make a strong enough potion.
This is another bit of fanon that's pretty pervasive. There are
no such thing as wizarding power levels. You are either a wizard(witch) or you're not. What determines how "good" a mage you are is entirely how well you perform spells and how creative you are.
The strength of a spell is a matter of imagination, talent(akin to being good at math or music) and execution followed by esoteric wand stuff.
Merope was uneducated, inbred, and abused. She was called a "near squib" because of this but she had the potential to be a fully trained witch. She just was prevented from doing so.
"Near squib" is a cultural insult not a medical diagnosis. Neville was also called a "near squib" because of wand and confidence issues but he was anything but a weak wizard in the end.
Despite this we know Merope was good enough to keep Tom Riddle Sr. ensnared by (assumedly correctly brewed because they worked) love potions to get married and pregnant enough to stop using them. It wasn't because of a fanon "weak magical core" or any such nonsense. It's just how we're told love potions work.
There are, according to wizarding world, at least five potions that have permanent effects; the elixir of life, the Draught of living death, the beautification potion, Forgetfulness potion, and that truth potion, (that I can never remember how to spell).
So, a love potion that doesn't wear off is not out of the question.
I would bet that Snape, Dumbledore or the Twins could make one, if they wanted to.
The only sources we have say that a permanent love potion is impossible and they last 24 hours.
Could some genius potentially change that? Sure. Ginny could also be a mutant mind controller related to Jean Grey. But since both of those situations aren't mentioned anywhere they're just idle speculation with no basis in anything concrete.
Harry was free from any Weasley interference at all for months at a time both before and during the seventh book and he remained super into Ginny. You could have an AU I guess where she's an evil ho who ensnared the boy with a heretofore unheard of love potion but canonically there's no real evidence.
As for Harry... First year, he was led down a path for that entire book.
Hagrid, you know, the guy that can't keep a secret, can't stop talking and can't do crap for magic was sent to escort Harry and get the Stone at the same time. (Note my raised eyebrow.). If somebody was that obvious in a fanfiction on this site, fifty people would jump out of the woodwork bitching about railroading the plot. How did Snape get bit by fluffy anyway? Is he too egotistical to find out that music hath charms to soothe the savage beast? A saying that has even made its way to the muggle world? Or, was it another train ticket, giving Harry and crew somebody to suspect?
No, from day one in the Wizard world, if people had left Harry alone, he'd have floated through school, had a few good friends and gone on to settle down quietly, just as he did after Voldemort quit screwing with him every freaking year. His biggest problem was that between Dumbles and moldimort, they were never going to leave him alone.
But TL;DR; Harry does not want to be famous or have people try to kill him every year and Ginny isn't as perfect as the shippers make her out to be.
Harry very much was an active participant of his fate in the books. He saw things going down and took a moral stand to stop them. He charges into danger multiple times even when it wasn't his responsibility to (troll, chamber, Sirius, the ministry) and would never stop trying to end Voldemort just to have a normal life.
It's what made him such a good hero and why people were disappointed with how passive he seems in the movies.
As to fame? Harry is all about attention as long as it's both positive and has nothing to do with his dead parents. It's why he takes extra loops after the dragon and loves quidditch. it's why he day dreamed about how awesome being in the Triwizard tournament would be (until he was entered against his will and was ostracized for it).
Just a couple of book quotes to finish with here that show the "the monster in his chest" didn't pop up out of nowhere.
The Half-blood Prince said:
Harry smelt treacle tart, the woody scent of broomstick handle, and something flowery that he thought he might have smelled at the Burrow.
(sic) Smelling amortentia which presents itself as what you find attractive.
Later that day said:
"Hang on," said a voice close by Harry's left ear and he caught a sudden waft of that flowery smell he had picked up in Slughorn's dungeon. He looked around and saw that Ginny had joined them.
Like, do I think they were perfect for each other? Not particularly. Ginny and Harry really didn't get anywhere near as much establishing time as Ron and Hermione. But I do think they could work and that Harry really didn't click with anyone else.
The only other girl Harry hung out with was Hermione and he was
constantly bad mouthing how type A and argumentative she was in his inner monologue. Hermione was his ride or die friend but she was too much for more than moderate doses.