Babies have a lot easier time getting adopted than any other group, I think it's workable.I think you have a lot of confidence in the american welfare system. Confidence which is unwarranted.
Certainly more so than a kid trying to raise a baby she has no idea what to do with. Even with money that's still an issue.
Her needing to turn her life around is just one more reason she isn't ready to be a parent. Doing heavy work on yourself isn't the time to have someone utterly dependent on you for everything.
If I'd meant drugs I would have said it. I described it as enabling because that's what this is.Enabling is a very telling choice of word. Trying to imply shes gonna go out and get more heroin when we give her money?
Though I imagine you would say that explicitly. In spite of DP having told us she isnt addicted to it anymore. Whole new kind of brain damage.
Rosie wants to keep her baby because it feels right but isn't thinking of the consequences to her or her child, not in any detailed sense anyway.
Making it possible for her to do that even when it's arguably harmful to both of them is enabling her.
She isn't mentally or emotionally ready to raise a well balanced human being. Rosie functionally admitted to that when she talked about how her life was already destroyed but she wanted to keep the kid with her anyway, presumably because it can't get any worse.
Almost all of her focus is on herself and not on the consequences her actions could have in her kid's future.
That's not an indictment of her character, it's the reality of being as young as she is and facing the issues she's facing.
Edit: my phone's out to get me it seems
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