I mean, yes it's toxic to think like that, but like, this is the job. We can totally still salvage this situation. It's gonna hurt, again, but that's the job.
I think at this point we need to invest more in emotional support and honesty. We should tell Mary and let her be a part of Olivias life properly, honestly.
Olivia need to be able to do her work while also taking care of herself. It's a balance, not a zero sum game.
To be clear, when I say peacefully, no shit, we're in a fight, I had no idea! I mean we don't have to kill Jarvis and let it inevitably reboot it's sentience with even more paranoid animosity (and this is Marvel, it will). We can take a look at it with our Livs superior technopathic genius, turn it back on in isolation, and resume negotiations in a more peaceful setting.
It isn't a job. It isn't a requirement. I know someone who does this to themselves. Who constantly talks of 'I'd rather hurt myself because then the only person I hurt is myself' and constantly hurts herself over the smallest 'oh no I was thoughtless' because she feels she has to. And it kills me every time I see it. It kills me every time they have a breakdown of hating themselves. Because it hurts to see them like that, and, perhaps most of all, it hurts to see myself in them, without the illusions of self-hatred justifying it. From the outside looking in, I can see how hurtful it is. How they want to hurt themselves because they think they aren't a good person, even though only a good person would care so much. And, most of all, how that same thinking infects my own thoughts. How much I struggle with it. How often I think "I need to do this because it hurts, but it is right that I am hurt, I am powerful/privileged/responsible and it is right that I hurt."
I've been working on challenging those thoughts. In my own head, and in others. These days, when I see them, I'm working on feeling less 'yes, of course, that is right, that's why I should mentally beat myself up for not hurting myself' and instead get angry that the world tries to make me hate myself so when our CEO's and rulers plunder without a single thought of remorse.
Investing more in emotional support and honesty is great, but it will not undue continuing to let our body be pounded and destroyed. If we go down this brought, we will hurt Mary, we will hurt her so much as we continue to think we have to hurt ourselves, because the truth, the truth I once told someone else, is that when you 'hurt only yourself' you also hurt everyone who are about you. We should let her in, but because it is the right thing to do. Continuing to hurt ourselves will stress her just as much, maybe more.