Okay so if you do the Tourney, you'll have options to compete in just a few jousts or do the whole thing. Unless you do the whole Tourney as a mystery knight and don't reveal yourself, that will count as attending the tourney for Lord Grafton since from his prespective you will only be gone for part of the event.
Feasting should also relieve stress, depending on how closely we're hewing to Crusader Kings mechanics.Given this I really think we should do the tourney and skip the feast, since it sounds at least doing a few jousts and then attending the rest of the tourney meets our obligation to our host. It also sounds like going farther and revealing ourselves might do that too. The only fail condition sounds like it would be if we got far enough that it looks like we barely attended the tourney, but not far enough we could reveal ourselves. Or if we reveal ourselves and they take offense. But even in that case it seems like that might be a risk worth taking?
So attending the feast might be necessary if we intend to go deep in the tournament but not reveal ourselves, but I have a hard time seeing that as being worth the opportunity cost of taking the action.
Feasting should also relieve stress, depending on how closely we're hewing to Crusader Kings mechanics.
Honestly the Feast might be the best action out of all of them, since it completes one of our Private Goals of making more friends, which the description hinted at that feasts would help, and I don't think I need to explain the benefits of having more friends.True. But if we think we're in need of stress relief I'd rather talk to Alicent or relax (music) or something.
The only real reason I see for feasting would be that maybe we ought to see what feasts do, and the feast is clearly a much bigger deal here than the tourney. But I kind of would consider that secondary to taking an action to progress the Alicent romance or study or train harder or anything else related to one of our long term goals.
Honestly the Feast might be the best action out of all of them, since it completes one of our Private Goals of making more friends, which the description hinted at that feasts would help, and I don't think I need to explain the benefits of having more friends.
It also appeases our host, may give us the chance to make the Vale Lords that were on Arnold's side hate us less, and may hypothetically reduce our stress (The last one is only conjecture tho)
It's one of the goals of the Royal Progress, called "Private Goals" if I remember correctly, and we chose it along with Training Publicly and other stuff.Is that one of our goals? It's not on our character sheet. I agree it's a good general thing to do, but it's not becoming a knight or finding love.
I think we can pick up friends naturally with repeated actions with the same characters. And this seems better since I'd prefer to make friends with people we choose after deliberately spending actions on people like Gwayne or Harwin or Jessamyn rather than just making friends with [random vale knight] we met at the feast. Or worse, just meeting ser random vale lord and then having to spend actions making friends with them.
It's one of the goals of the Royal Progress, called "Private Goals" if I remember correctly, and we chose it along with Training Publicly and other stuff.
And some of our friends could come us with back to King's Landing like Steffon is (Tho he's not quite our friend yet) if they're not heirs or lords, also even if we don't become friends with people at the feast, them thinking of us fondly could go a long way.
I see what you're saying tho and we should make time for Alicent and other things soon, but other actions just kinda take precedent right now.