I can only speak for myself, but I am just not that enthusiastic anymore about proactively getting on her good side.
The whole Nokai and Geng episode (and her conspicious absence) at least implies that she's too transactional and mercenary for that to pay off.
Honestly, from my perspective, it's on her to at least express interest in taking a step forward in our alliance/bussiness relationship/friendship. Of course, assuming Geng doesn't force our hand.
And while we are at it, though I vastly prefer her to her rivals, her being overwhelmingly the primary mover and shaker of the 8th court might not be an entirely good thing.
Does that necessarily have to be the case?
After the Nokai scene was resolved we time skipped over to Zhi talking about it with Mo Hanying, who expressed that she wanted to join but couldn't due to being busy. Zhi pressed her on it, and then she went on to say she was busy with work from her seniors in the Imperial Hand.
Which is a pretty reasonable excuse and not exactly a unlikely thing to happen. It's also a really bad lie to use on Zhi, because you know who else is in the Imperial Hand who could falsify that alibi, had publicly become friends again with Zhi in a way that would literally be impossible for her not to not know, and would love to put a wedge between them? Mei Deiyu.
Mo Hanying is a literal noble with countless sycophants and entanglements to be involved, with all the political obligations that entails. Their a billion and one way better, less easy to fall apart lies that she could have constructed for why she couldn't make it.
It's not as if this was some out of nowhere thing where otherwise she always has free time, both she and Nokai, her literal roommate, have both commented how often she busy throughout the quest.
Looking back at the quest, she has previously shown a fairly tight relationship with Nokai, both in omakes with the two, both characters talking alone about the other to Zhi, and scenes where their both present in. For instance, does anyone remember the scene after Nokai taught Zhi the Warhound Cry? Mo Hanying thanked Zhi for doing that and assured him that it meant a lot to her.
Keep in mind, that said teaching cost Zhi a social stress box because of how prejudiced people are against her, and it's worth remembering that Mo has done a good bit more then sneaking off with her by that point in the story, from publicly being her friend, choosing her as a teammate in a duel that was watched by almost the whole circle, and even living with her. Considering how few friends Nokai really has and how much she hates Geng Tu, it's not exactly hard to believe she didn't have to go to that extent if all she wanted was having her in her corner against the guy.
And while I know people are going to say that meaningless because she's a noble and a shrewd political operation, but it's worthwhile to point so is her enemy, who could very easily and probably has used that connection to draw support away from her to his camp by appealing to people's bigotry.
Xu Yun is a bro that Zhi frankly almost doesn't deserve. He commissions a charm motivated in big part to help Zhi out, pays the full price, joins him on a deadly dungeon crawl without a second thought and for free, is beside himself when Zhi gets mutated.
Him and Mo can't really be compared, even if they are mechanically the same.
Mei and Zhi are complicated.
Obviously the specifics of the personality and relationships matter here, but I don't think we're supposed to completely discount the pretty explicit relationship chart Ves lays out either. I don't think Mo would go to the same lengths as Xu Yun to help us in a time of crisis for instance, but Xu Yun is quite literally the most moral and self sacrificing character in the entire story who would go out of his way to help a perfect stranger, I don't think literally every friend needs to be held to that standard for us.
Pretty faint praise. How much have we interacted with Shouxi again? Xu Yun we also don't interact with much. And we publicly sided with Mo and humiliated Mei with her own style in a honor duel. The fact that we've gotten this far is a miracle and the product of us spilling spaghetti at the drop of a hat.
We haven't really had that many interactions with Mo either, and certainly spent more time with former two then her despite a bunch of chances to hang out, so I don't really see why this is a strike against her. Shouxi is also the character whose been the most busy in terms of being open to hang with and we've had quite a few arcs in the narrative that heavily featured Xu Yun, from the initial fight club, to the duel, to the deeps. I feel like the specifics of our Mei relationship, if anything, help my point as well.
Mo isn't soulless, and I don't think anyone thinks that, but I don't see the point in chasing her favor like a dog with a ball. Friends or no, she will prioritize herself and her goals. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but it is something to keep in mind. I don't see why it's unreasonable to be cautious around her.
E:Maybe you're right, and Mo is totally willing to maintain our current relationship with about the same level of commitment. But there is absolutely a level of self-interest to her character, and she's shown to maintain a transactional attitude even when we're in private.
E2: I just want to also say that my autocorrect changed Xu Yun to "cute" twice and I think that's hilarious.
First off, that is hilarious and Xu Yun is very cute.
But second of all, I want to make it clear I'm not arguing she's a saint. A lot of of this come from the fact that I find her convos with Zhi entertaining to read, I really like her friendship with Nokai esp from the omake bits we saw of the two, and honestly just find the cunning schemer archetype in these stories sorta cool. If you dont like that stuff, It's pretty understandable to not be that invested in he character.
It's fine to be cautious around her, but I think it's also important to actually keep in mind that she's a person with self intrests that generally along with our own and who has every reason not to stab in the back even from a purely pragmatic standpoint, from her other relationships with people, what we have to offer her, the relationship between our moms, and the fact she doesn't have much if anything to gain from it.
I also think that it's worth while to point out while I don't think she'd be willing to take a bullet or anything for Zhi, not that I'd expect us to vote for Zhi to do the same, I don't think that should be a impediment to trying to be better friends with her. Look back on say, our initial relationship with the Fa's for instance.
It started with Jai planning to physically expel Zhi from the tower until Shouxi had to stop her. We went to a class with them once and proceeded to ignore them till Zhi ICly felt like he was being a poor roommate, with the real start of their amicable relationship being a explicit transaction for a pill in exchange for a charm, with Shouxi saying in no uncertain terms that he wasn't looking out for his and his sisters intrests first in that conversation. A lot of our interactions after involved helping Jai get mats for Shouxi or working together on sect assignments, while with Shouxi almost everything has involved ordering pills from the guy or doing something on his path, whether it's testing his concoctions, helping gather ingredients, or even connecting him with Mo Hanying.
However Shouxi's gone on to be pretty integral to us via his pillmaking buisness and here we are, fairly worried about his mental health and planning actions around helping him out of the overwork he's placing on himself.
Meanwhile Fa is our second closest friend compared too Nokai. I don't know that we'd have to same level of trust and willingess to self sacrifice for eachother with Mo if we put in a similar amount of updates hanging with her, but I do think had we written the Fa's off due to shady stuff or how a lot of their initital back and forths were largely about what the two parties could do for eachother Zhi probably would have been worse off for it.