By letting those titles define you, you oft become a walking stereotype. And worse? You often become the very type of person you hate.
I'm...somewhat tentatively going to give you the benefit of the doubt and gonna dive into this under the assumption that you're well intentioned but don't really have a lot of understanding. And you don't y'know? Just going off of your post you don't...
Really understand at all tbh.
Like ever seen that South Park episode where Randy drops the n-word on Wheel of Fortune? And the b-plot has Stan trying to convince Token that he understands what's happened and is more tolerant and not racist and all that jazz, with Token getting increasingly frustrated? I can take or leave a lot of South Park but that episode is one of the good ones, for a lot of reasons (the "if even a sliver of what happens to black people happened to a middle class white dude the whole world would explode" is pretty great) but especially for the resolution. Where Stan finally admits that he's white, he doesn't
get what it's like to be black. And that can be generalized to a lot of the minority/oppressed experience tbh. And that's fine y'know? If you're straight you don't have to insist that you understand what it's like to be queer, you can just go "I don't really know".
Like, I'm a dude who's into dudes, and I don't exactly like talking loads about it but it's not just a label man, not a tag you choose to put on and can take off, and in no way equivalent to shit like what your favorite hobbies are. It's a whole collection of associated experiences and filters and relationships that inform how you feel about the world and how the world feels about you. Like, yo, well within living memory the US government let AIDS rip through the LGBT+ community because we were fucking
undesirables who had it coming. Yo, in a bunch of states you can be fired or evicted just for your sexuality. Yo, society fucks with you because your peers groups unconsciously and
very consciously treat who you like as abnormal and weird and something to be ashamed of and it's really hard not to internalize that. Yo, gay dudes in the media are often either sexless, effeminate, foppish punchlines or straight up sexual predators and there are so few exceptions to that fucking rule.
Like, privilege is a loaded word but you want to know what it really means? This. Exactly what you said and the fact that you can believe it, that's privilege. That you can hold up individual examples of success and go "that's all you need really". That you can look at minority spaces and not only feel entitled to be there but unironically say that your exclusion is no different what's been done to them. That you can talk about being "black" or "queer" or a "woman" like it's something that can be torn away, should be torn away, in favor of a kind of fucked up equality where everyone gets to be the Same.
That is to say the Same As You. A white straight guy. And that's what I mean, you don't seem to understand how much society caters to the baseline of White Straight Men, to the point where deviation away from that feels abnormal and uncomfortable to you. Which....well.
Tough tbh. The world's more than white straight guys, you're gonna have to learn to live with us.
) /shrug 
