- Location
- England, unfortunately.
- Pronouns
- She/They
*dopeslap*
Shut that yapper Qubes
*dopeslap*
First I think we should stop with the notion that there's an easy solution to this. There isn't. This isn't going to get fixed in a single vote. We maybe able to address some of it but Tamiko is really out of her depth here. She can't fix all of Evelyn's problems. But she can be there for her.
Borrowed some of Whiskers lines.
[x] More hugs.
-[x] No Evelyn. That's not stupid at all.
-[x] You still remember that day you and her met. When she had agreed to eat lunch with you and Kishi, you had felt so happy.
--[x] You may have only known her for a short time, but it feels you and her have been friends for so much longer. She may not be a magical girl, but you consider her as much as part of the group as the others are.
--[x] Evelyn, you always matter. You are never a burden. Not to me. Never doubt that.
This doesn't address a major part of the problem, which is that she worries that we don't want her to become a magical girl, and she feels bad about distrusting us like that. We need to be honest and tell her that part of the reason we said what we did was that we were afraid of losing her.
Telling someone who feels like they're useless that they aren't is like ramming a brick wall. It doesn't fit with their worldview, so it just bounces off. If we want to help her self opinion we need to A) Start valuing her choices and opinions more, and B) Give her an actual reason she's useful. Otherwise she's just going to disregard it.
[] More hugs.
-[] No Evelyn. That's not stupid at all.
-[] You still remember that day you and her met. When she had agreed to eat lunch with you and Kishi, you had felt so happy.
--[] You may have only known her for a short time, but it feels you and her have been friends for so much longer. She may not be a magical girl, but you consider her as much as part of the group as the others are.
--[] My friends aren't important to me because they're magical girls. You are important to me because you're my friend.
--[] Evelyn, you always matter. You are never a burden. Not to me. Never doubt that.
Do you have the impression that we aren't valuing her choices and opinions? Aside from MG matters (where we shouldn't value her opinion as much, even though she might not like it) and keeping Evelyn safe (again, she might not like it, but her safety is worth more than some hurt feelings), we've been as much a friend to her as she's been to us. Which is to say, close friends.
Uh... That wasn't the reason we said that. Tamiko isn't against Evelyn contracting. She just wants Evelyn not to wish just because she feels she needs to and that she doesn't regret the wish she makes.
But right now this is a secondary concern. Important, but we need to address the other issue first.
A) doesn't conflict with my vote and B) We value Evelyn for her being her. But I could stand to emphasize that more.
Your first reaction is to squee in delight at the idea of having another Magical Girl friend. You suppress down the urge, however, as that would be extremely irresponsible of you. Witches are very dangerous after all, you can speak from experience, and pressuring her about the wish would be just rude of you.
1: Evelyn probably feels like she is being replaced by Arianne, as Arianne is a fellow foreigner, the new arrival to the group, and is a MG on top of that.
4. Based on the invisitext, Evelyn probably has some abandonment issues. Some assurance we will be her friend as long as she wants would probably be helpful.
5. Instead of just stressing she's important for being our friend, maybe focus on the traits that make her special among our friends? Admiring her confidence and the way she pushes herself, for example?
6. She seems to be putting both us and Magical girls in general on a pedestal, saying that there is some sort of bond between MG's that she feels left out of. Probably should address that misconception, and make it clear that we aren't better or different from her.
It was explicitly part of our thought process, both from an IC and OOC perspective.
These are some pretty good ideas. The rest might end up bloating the vote, though.
[] More hugs.
-[] No Evelyn. That's not stupid at all.
-[] You still remember that day you and her met. When she had agreed to eat lunch with you and Kishi, you had felt so happy.
--[] ...And then you and Kishi had a rather... spirited debate over just how good twilight is. And I knew from that moment on we were going to be good friends.
[] You know I admire you? Your confidence, your tenacity, your drive to succeed. But you're also the kind of person who calls to check on their friends when they're sick and cheers them up when they're feeling down.
[] You may have only known her for a short time, but it feels you and her have been friends for so much longer. She may not be a magical girl, but you consider her as much as part of the group as the others are.
--[] Evelyn, you are irreplaceable. You will always matter. You are never a burden. Not to me. Never doubt that.