My perspective is that this seems more like a question of how a society responds to childhood mental health. It seems as if the defining attribute of the Kuldare is that their mind and body transform in response to social pressure. I imagine that the Kuldare would consequently be extremely vulnerable to deliberate or inadvertent social pressure transforming them against their will (or in ways that don't serve the interests of their family). Keeping the Kuldare isolated from (perceived) harmful influences and preparing them to overcome a major psychological trial seems like the only way to keep them safe until they are capable of maintaining stability in the face of extreme pressure to transform. There is certainly a potential for abuse as LGBT or other disfavored personality traits are misinterpreted as signs of negative influence or a weak sense of self, but that doesn't seem to be the overall goal or result of this process.
Consider what monsters could be created when childhood and teenage power dynamics result in direct changes rather than simple hurt feelings and harmful patterns of behavior. There would be a potential for permanent damage from a cycle of psychological trauma and transformation. EX: A bully mocks a Kuldare for being ugly - they change physically - more people start viewing them as ugly - the changes worsen and become permanent as they internalize their perceived ugliness. In many ways the physical transformation would be the least harmful as it is the easiest to detect and treat. Psychological changes involving cruelty or stupidity could go in some truly horrific directions.
When we apply this perspective to a society I think that we can see how this "Rite of the Waters" is a vital necessity. The Imperial Households need to have a unequivocal means of determining just when it is safe to expose their children to outside influences. They can't keep their children indefinitely isolated as that would cripple their personal development and prevent them from serving their family interests. The "Rite of Water" would be the culminating experience that builds on psychological training intended to help the Kuldare maintain their sense of self and which signals that it is safe for them to fully enter society.
The "Rite of Waters" and the general focus on suppressing unconscious transformation through a strong sense of self seems like an overall beneficial practice that does have some potential for abuse. The fact that those who fail are permanently relegated to an underclass rather than simply receiving more time to develop is a particularly problematic element of the described society.
PS: I missed the last Squishy post and it seems like I may be misinterpreting the potential for lasting harm. I still love to consider the psychological consequences of children growing up with the power to shapechange and am interested in seeing if anyone else would care to share their thoughts.
You're not wrong, just I think underestimating the impact of
other dreamers on the
kulare, and of the nature of the
kulare dream itself. There are many dreamers, and many dreams that range from the very specific to the very broad, and their effects form layers of expectation and form.
This is one reason why shape-changing is very difficult (though not impossible). Imperial society as a whole dreams that its people are bipedal, roughly what we think of as person-sized, fleshy, and so on. That dream is not very specific - the dream doesn't tell you what eye color every person should have or what length hair - but it is very powerful because it is dreamed by many, many people at once, and so being a person who has the physical shape of a butterfly is very difficult: the Imperial dream -
zuraca, it's called
- strongly resists the idea that you might look like a butterfly, and to overcome that dream you must have a powerful sense of self-as-butterfly. On the other hand, a child who shifts skin color, hair style, or what have you from day to day is not resisted by the Imperial dream at all; those things are easy, as a
kulare.
But of course there are ranges in between Imperial society as a whole and the individual. There are pressures of family, of household, of region, of social class, of friends, and indeed as you describe those pressures can be extremely powerful and often not what your family wants. An incident of being bullied by another child probably wouldn't make much of a difference in and of itself - the
kulare are resilient as part of the Imperial dream, they are flexible and bounce back easily - but your household would definitely not want you to fall in with the wrong crowd where the influence of that crowd over a long term might overwhelm the influence of your household, at least until you had more capacity to resist.
This is absolutely fascinating. It seems like you have put some real thought into the social mechanics of a society of shapechangers. Is this just something you made up from a single idea or part of a larger work?
This is just one small piece for illustrative purposes! The entire work is much longer and covers a considerable amount else - and in fact the shape-changing part is actually incidental to the main idea.