What usually ends up happening, from what I've seen, is that you come in with like, a take to the effect of "I think the 2e version of this thing is better than the 3e version", then when you get even mild pushback you act really performatively self deprecating and cringe away doing the textual equivalent of acting like someone has hit you. You even went through a phase on the Discord where if people disagreed with you in a discussion, you would go back and either delete every single individual message you made or edit them to say something like "ignore me, I'm sorry for posting".
I am willing to believe that this is born out of genuine social anxiety, but it is also like, pretty evident that some of the hostility you ascribe to the fanbase is like, significantly in your head? And your reaction to it is genuinely more disruptive and upsetting to people than anything you ever actually said. It also creates this pattern of behaviour where you'll like, keep making the same takes over and over, and not actually engage with the discussion past the point of it becoming obvious that you're pushing an unpopular opinion. Like, as an example from this post, I have seen you try to make variants on this "Exigents should be god-blooded" argument two or three times at this point, and like... Maybe if you were more willing to have that discussion instead of tossing a take into a conversation and then immediately dipping, you would realise that people disagree with that take because they think it's wrong, not because they haven't noticed you're correct about it.
It's okay if people disagree with you, and this is not the same as them being hostile. It's not very fair to others to treat them like they're attacking you.