There was a discussion on Space Battles tangentially related with a rather controversial topic, so I decided to crosspost my explanation here to preempt any questions about it and because I'm a hopeless optimist who believes that his readers are mature individuals wouldn't start a shitstorm just because we touched an adult topic.
Wink wink, nudge nudge.
The topic is, eh, Tanya's gender and her view of it. If this makes you uncomfortable to read, you can stop now and just be assured that Tanya is a 'she' in this story. Okay.
Now, a disclaimer. This is not meant to represent real life interpretation of gender or, God forbid, encompass my overall opinion on the topic. Incidentally, my opinion is "Tell me your pronouns, and I will do my very best to accommodate you as soon as I manage to browbeat my instinctual reactions and being taught to use 'he' as gender-neutral by my English teacher".
Now, Tanya. This is a massive cop-out, but I'm going to simplify it by saying she's genderqueer.
Now, what this means specifically in this situation. Manga chose to portray the young salaryman as socially isolated and fairly androgynous in his looks, which mostly tracks. The reason he identified as male is because he possessed outwardly male sexual characteristics, and because it was the most rational course of action to him. He didn't even think about it that much. Japan is predominately patriarchal in its societal composition, arguably more so than many of the other countries, and the world overall still views male gender as the stronger, more successful, more rational if you really wanna dig into stereotypes. Being male and not a member of sexual minority for whatever reasons translates into easier career advancement for him, so it's an easy decision, uncomplicated further by his apparent disinterest in anything sexually related or anything career unrelated at all.
Now, why Tanya would for example be so pissed about getting reborn as female, aside from the obvious reasons. Firstly, it's about power and control. In fact, it's mostly about power and control. She most certainly didn't choose it and if given a choice would have almost certainly defaulted to getting reborn as male. With all things being equal, again, being identified as male by other people would have been easier for her life in Germania, because, well, being male was easier period in the twentieth century aside from the small wrinkle that it's usually guys who were drafted to fight and die on frontlines during the world wars.
So, firstly, Being X changed her body without her consent. I don't ascribe to the concept that soul is gendered, but that's my religious views, so let's talk about factual science instead. There is strong ( and mounting ) supportive evidence that brains are in fact gendered. Brain is a part of a body. Being X could have certainly arranged for Tanya to be born with an essentially male brain in a female body, but let's just not go that way. Besides, as the closest thing to the religious fundamentalist in-universe, essentially being a portrayal of or a being masquerading as the Abrahamic God, with the Bible and other assorted religious texts certainly not providing such concepts as "tolerance to homosexuality", much less "genderqueer identity", I don't believe he even knows or acknowledges it's a thing. So. Being X transported Salaryman's soul into female body, which translates into her getting saddled with the personality, memories and batshit biases of her previous life. The gap between being born and becoming aware of surroundings is neatly explained by her brain growing enough to support cognizance and self-awareness, as well as the memories of previous life.
Secondly, again, he fucked up her chances to survive. A small girl growing up in an orphanage is like the worst possible scenario that precludes life expectancy numbering in double digits instead of dying in a ditch, nope, that would have been too easy. Magic doesn't necessarily help with that. If she hadn't enlisted she would have probably been drafted later like Visha, in battlefield support role at least. Granted, running headfirst into becoming a child soldier wasn't the objectively smartest thing, either, but that's a digression.
Lastly, it's about deeply rooted existential fear. He upended every single constant in her life, violated her body, factually made her his plaything for his amusement. It's an attack on ego that could have easily resulted in her acquiring a plethora of new mental issue, and could for example explain her psychopathic episodes during the war as a need to express control and superiority to cope with her insecure ego.
Okay, now to deescalate. Since Tanya ( in this story ) subconsciously views gender as a societal construct of preconceptions and prejudices built by people instead of a thing she intimately possesses and has to interact with on daily basis, like having sex with other people, for example, she doesn't have any overt objections with playing up to people's expectations aside from the most egregious ones, like wearing a dress. She identifies as female because that's how she looks and because it doesn't cause her any inherent discomfort of gender dysphoria. APGTE world is much more accepting of LGBTQ+ minorities as a result of heroes coming from all ways of life regardless of their gender and sexuality, but she 1) doesn't necessarily knows that, though there is available evidence if she cared to look 2) doesn't really care after coming to terms with it and redirecting all her anger towards the singular object of her hatred: Being X.
To summarize, she's fine with being called a 'she', so that's what I'm doing, she would have mixed feelings about being called 'he', and she would be largely indifferent to being called 'they' if the reason for that was explained to her.
Again, this all *points at the last thousand words* is the result of me having to come up with a plausible scenario for why Tanya isn't mentally unstable from being treated as female trans male thirty plus years salaryman stuck in an adolescent girl's body. I just wouldn't be able to write that character, I wouldn't do it justice, I would mostly just fuck up. I want to say that I did it as a fun mental exercise, but it wasn't 'fun', so.
Let's hope I will be able to handle it with care in the story I'm telling.
And sorry to everyone who had their hopes up after noticing an alert, but, eh, I wouldn't ever post such a small chapter anymore.