It is rare for the Eldar to be gifted with a child of any sort, and as such when a birth happens the entire community celebrates. Long are the lives of the Elves, and thus long it is before one dies and their spirit returns to Mandos's Halls to be wrapped in flesh anew and sent out into the world as an elf-child. Thus in TA 2893, shortly after a mighty force of Southrons troubled the realm of Gondor, great joy was had to an elven family and their friends as they were gifted with a child. Stalwart lords and protectors of the realm, this family lived in:
[ ] Lindon: The Grey Havens are home to the Sindar elves, those of the Teleri who stayed in Beleriand and did not complete the Great Journey to Valinor. The last stopping point for the Eldar who wish to quit Middle Earth and return to Valinor to resist the fading of their bodies, the Grey Havens are a somber and quiet place. Those who live here do so only to ease the passing of their kindred, and when Middle Earth is empty of elves they too shall depart West. Your father owns an estate and a small harbor near Harlond, south of the Gulf of Lhun. From an early age you were taught to be at home on ship as much as you were on land, and how to navigate by starlight.
[ ] Imladris: Rivendell, the Last Homely House, is home to the greatest dwelling of Noldor in Middle Earth. Ruled by Elrond Halfelven, the Deep Elves are masters of craft and song. Having born host to a great many heroes of Arda they are a storied people, if a tragic one. The High Elves slowly wither, few among the Noldo have seen the Light of the West. They are fading quicker than any other race of elves, and once Rivendell is empty there will be none left of them in Middle Earth. Your father owns a small hunting lodge on the outskirts of Elrond's valley, and taught you how to make beautiful things with hammer and anvil from a young age; as well as teaching you the ancient pride of your people.
[ ] The Woodland-Realm: The Silvan Elves of Mirkwood, once Greenwood the Great, are the most populous of the elves in Middle Earth. From Thranduil's Halls they rule over Northern Mirkwood, making merry in the forest glades and dancing under the light of stars. Still they are threatened by the shadows coming from Dul Guldur, and much of their beloved home has grown dark and terrible as of late. Your father commands an outpost cut into a hill overlooking the Men-i-Naugrim and has quarreled much with the Uruks of late. He taught you how to string and shoot a bow when you were young, and of the ancient paths known only to the elves through the forest.
[ ] Lothlorien: The Galadhrim are the greatest of the Silvan Elves, ruled directly by Celeborn and Galadriel. The Golden Lord and Lady keep the golden Mathom trees in full bloom all year long, protecting Lorien from the touch of winter and death. The elves of Lorien know much of the ancient lore of Valinor, the magic of their queen teaching them much about the old ways. Your mother owns a small estate near the borders of Lorien and keeps a grand court there. She taught you the smaller songs of power, the elf-magic that amazes the other peoples of Middle Earth, at a young age; along with the names and uses of many plants and herbs.
There is little difference physically between the men and women of the elves. They are both beardless and lithe, well muscled and agile. Both prefer long hair and carefully shave themselves when not on the road. Socially, however, there is a preference towards men. Women are expected to pour their attention and energy into raising their children and then afterwards onto supporting their husband. It is up to the men of the elves to create and rule; though in Waning Days, where there are few elves left period, women can more easily step into the rules of their male counterparts. This is held most true among the Noldor and Sindar, though notably Elrond seems to care little for these bits of the old ways. The division of gender is held in the least regard in Lothlorien, as Galadriel's presence has made the old restrictions of Valinor fade and ease. The elf child was known to their parents as:
[ ] Male: Men, or Neri, are considered the more dominant partners between the two main elven genders. They are most often the ones to inherit titles, be taught crafts, go to war and explore the world. They are assumed to take the more proactive role in the fortunes of the world and it is expected that your parent will pass their holdings and treasures on to you.
[ ]Female: Women, or Nessi, are the more passive partner in traditional Valinoran ideals. They are expected to take care of the household, raise children, bake bread and provide support for their husband and brothers. While an elf-maid going to war, inheriting titles and adventuring would be considered stranger, it would not be more so than an adventurous hobbit would be in the Shire. A loving family would support you, as will your friends. Outside of your enemies the most you will receive in backlash should be minor annoyance or worry.
[ ] Non-binary: There are few of the Nean among the Eldar. Whether it be because elf-spirits always reincarnate as the gender they were in their lives before, as is the common view, or because of cultural pressure is unclear. Nean have a strange place in elven society, being able to flit between the passive and active at will. There have been enough Nean that even the most conservative Noldo believe they exist, but what they mean and should do is up for debate. The most common view is that there is a line of souls with no fixed gender, created by Eru in order to provide special insight into his world. Thus Nean are often pressured into positions as loremasters or oracles, expected to hold some secret knowledge the rest of the Eldar do not. They rarely inherit property and titles, though it is not utterly unheard of. Elven society will hold you at an arm's length while expecting you to give them some hidden wisdom.