Here's the thing: I think, she thinks, she gets it, and on some level she absolutely does. In that moment, Illias absolutely saw herself in Bearen. An idealized version that didn't fuck up in the major ways she has, but still. She saw the parts that were sure she couldn't stop doing what she was doing, because she was the only one that had the power to do the things she could. With how she's been drinking herself to death in a place that absolutely won't let her die, feeling cut off, maybe out of place? She's feeling that dark part of Bearen, and seeing it externalized like this, something she definitely feels? Yeah, that promps some self-reflection whether she knows it or not.
So it'll be super interesting to see what she does with it in this heated moment. Because as much as she's probably angry that such a force for good thinks so little of himself, it probably also scares her. I read some fear off of this. And that's the question. Is she afraid of what Bearen might turn into, or is she afraid she's already too much like him? I think seeing that will be good for Bearen. Not in the mental health sense, but in seeing where this path will inevitably lead.
My hope is seeing each other on similar paths will help both pull themselves off it.