[X] Drop the thought, even with this incursion, they had been safe. Increase the security of the house, but let her family stay here. (-2 Green Stones, family remains in unsafe area)
[X] Send Mother, Biyu and the rest of the household away until things settled down. It might cost her, but she could settle her family in a barony a little further north, away from incursions. (-3 Green Stones, small political effort required, safe family, potential emotional conflict?)