[X] Tone: Confident & firm but kind*
[X] Request her to walk through the gardens with you**
-[X] Ask her how her travel was and what she thought of his plan/effort to restore the empire***
-[X] Ask her what she thinks of the clans, great and small alike
--[X] After having a better grasp on her personality go into more personal stuff, like her hobbies or maybe her gempukku if that is not to personal
---[X]Finally if you are comfortable enough with her ask her whether you can fulfill her a personal wish that would make her stay more agreeable